We have a good argument about once a month. Is this normal or too often? How often do you guys argue? And, is it usually about stupid stuff? I know I put this in parenting, but you guys are all in the same situation as me, with young kids at home, so I thought you are best to ask if we are ';normal';! Thanks everyone!How often do you and your husband have disagreements? It is more frequent with young children?
I've been with my husband for 17 years, we were both 15. We've never had a huge argument. We have little tiffs once in awhile, usually about him sleeping in. When the kids were younger we argued more, because we were still trying to get our parenting styles to merge.
But yeah, with teens it's a lot less often. We can see now where the other is coming from and we got out the kinks and compromises a long time ago.
I want to add that when we disagree, we've always been respectful. No name voice raising or name calling. Ever. I've always had in my head that he would never put up with that, nor should he, because I know I wouldn't. So we've never crossed that line.How often do you and your husband have disagreements? It is more frequent with young children?
My husband and I usually have a big argument once a month. and its usually is over stupid stuff that just blew out of control. We also have a child at home (HIS child) he's 8. and at times it is because of the kid. But I think you're normal. unless we're both in a relationship where there is too much arguing. I've also learned to choose my battles. and it has reduced the arguing. If its something that I can let go, I just do, but later bring it up so we can talk about it, rather than have a shouting match. In my opinion once a month sounds right, unless you're in the Beaver family and you're perfect.
it doesn't matter how often you argue; it matters how you argue. if you keep it civil, mature, and end with a respectful resolution, i wouldn't worry about it. if not, i'd try and fix it.
we argue only rarely. he just doesn't have the temperament for arguing at all: as best i can tell after knowing him for two decades he has no temper to lose. and i just can't bring myself to argue with someone who is so calm. but there are a few issues where we are certain to end up disagreeing and sometimes disagreeing to the point i'd call it an argument. we both ended up laughing a few nights ago when he was just starting to raise the issue of a possible addition on our house (he wants it; i think we can't afford it and it's totally unnecessary, and we've had this unproductive conversation a hundred times) and i stopped him and said we were having such a nice evening that i thought we should save the subjects that are guaranteed to provoke problems between us for sometime when we were already grumpy....
We don't argue (or discuss I should say) enough. My husband is one of few words and bottles everything up until he explodes, then the gloves usually come off (not literally). We have been together so long that is seems it is always over the same stupid things. I told him I am done fighting over these issues we need to just get signs like Looney Tunes and hold them up at one another LOL. And yes some of our worst arguments have been over the stupidest things like him changing a light bulb or our daughter not eating her green beans at age 3. Again this is where suppressing the emotions makes green beans a bigger issue than they are. So I would say yes you are normal. My daughter is now 8 and we all laugh about the green bean issue but she still will NOT eat them LOL They are the two most stubborn people I have ever met.
Me and my fiance NEVER argued before out son came along.
Now we argue at least once a week, maybe even twice, but there always over silly things. I think a combination of tiredness and stress is to blame cos we always come around really quickly and end up forgetting about what the arguement was even over anyways!
In answer to your Q though, yeah, you sound pretty normal to me!
My husband and I argue about every 2 weeks so, sometimes over the dumbest things or how to discipline our kids. I think it is normal to argue every so often, but not every day. So I think your relationship is good.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
What should you think if your husband is receiving expensive gifts from another woman?
A woman just bought my husband a laptop computer. He says it was her gift to him for being so kind to her and her family. That is not the first time she has either bought him something or gave him money. Should I believe that is all to it?What should you think if your husband is receiving expensive gifts from another woman?
It all depends was he kind to her family?
I find it a little odd but if they have lots of spendable income maybe it's not a big thing for a gift.
I think you need to think of how much you trust your husband and go from there.What should you think if your husband is receiving expensive gifts from another woman?
Something isn't right there, why isn't she spending money on her own family, I wouldn't be at all happy about that, make your husband give her the presents back or tell him if he doesn't you will. If she was doing it out of kindness she would give the laptop as a present to all of you not just your husband.....if I were you I would find out what was going on straight away, do you know what your husband is supposed to have done for her that was ';so kind'; that he deserved a laptop for it?
I wonder what he did that was kind that merits a laptop. Seems really perplexing.
I would first ask your husband what he did that was so 'kind' that would make another woman buy him such a costly gift and if he give understandable answer, you let it go and think nothing of it. However, if he can't give an answer or if what he says doesn't seem plausible I would serious question/grill him more. I would find it odd if another woman would give my husband such an pricey gift. I really hope nothing is going on between them, good luck hon. :)
I would be deeply suspicious, unless it came through work. For instance, a customer of my husband gave him a gift card to a nice restaurant because of the work he did. She brought it to his office. I don't have a problem with that.
How was he kind? If he really helped out by working around the house or doing things she couldn't, then it may be OK. I'd want to know exactly what he did to 'earn' it I guess.
um, I don't think so - not my man if she ain't getting any yet, she will be soon. . .
if it was all ligit - and I had so much $$ I didn't know what to do with and I wanted to thank him for just cause - I'd send cash to the family with your name on it as well or I'd buy your children a gift.
Disrespectful and not happening at my house.
I would not be comfortable with that in the least. I would tell her that while you all appreciate her thoughfulness, the gift is too much to accept and return it to her.
Maybe he is just being kind with her in bed, i would be mad and suspicious. I would make him explain the whole situation cos doesnt make sense unless he is cheatin sorry
Sounds like he may be cheating. Nobody gives lavish gifts like this just to be friendly.
u probably have a real good looking husband, and she's not banging him yet, cause if she was, you woulden't even hear from her. but she's tryin' : )
Why not? He didn't say how he was being kind to her. That's what you should be asking him.
Com'on do you really have to ask ?? He is giving her the big ol Salomi and must be doing it pretty well too. lol
It all depends was he kind to her family?
I find it a little odd but if they have lots of spendable income maybe it's not a big thing for a gift.
I think you need to think of how much you trust your husband and go from there.What should you think if your husband is receiving expensive gifts from another woman?
Something isn't right there, why isn't she spending money on her own family, I wouldn't be at all happy about that, make your husband give her the presents back or tell him if he doesn't you will. If she was doing it out of kindness she would give the laptop as a present to all of you not just your husband.....if I were you I would find out what was going on straight away, do you know what your husband is supposed to have done for her that was ';so kind'; that he deserved a laptop for it?
I wonder what he did that was kind that merits a laptop. Seems really perplexing.
I would first ask your husband what he did that was so 'kind' that would make another woman buy him such a costly gift and if he give understandable answer, you let it go and think nothing of it. However, if he can't give an answer or if what he says doesn't seem plausible I would serious question/grill him more. I would find it odd if another woman would give my husband such an pricey gift. I really hope nothing is going on between them, good luck hon. :)
I would be deeply suspicious, unless it came through work. For instance, a customer of my husband gave him a gift card to a nice restaurant because of the work he did. She brought it to his office. I don't have a problem with that.
How was he kind? If he really helped out by working around the house or doing things she couldn't, then it may be OK. I'd want to know exactly what he did to 'earn' it I guess.
um, I don't think so - not my man if she ain't getting any yet, she will be soon. . .
if it was all ligit - and I had so much $$ I didn't know what to do with and I wanted to thank him for just cause - I'd send cash to the family with your name on it as well or I'd buy your children a gift.
Disrespectful and not happening at my house.
I would not be comfortable with that in the least. I would tell her that while you all appreciate her thoughfulness, the gift is too much to accept and return it to her.
Maybe he is just being kind with her in bed, i would be mad and suspicious. I would make him explain the whole situation cos doesnt make sense unless he is cheatin sorry
Sounds like he may be cheating. Nobody gives lavish gifts like this just to be friendly.
u probably have a real good looking husband, and she's not banging him yet, cause if she was, you woulden't even hear from her. but she's tryin' : )
Why not? He didn't say how he was being kind to her. That's what you should be asking him.
Com'on do you really have to ask ?? He is giving her the big ol Salomi and must be doing it pretty well too. lol
How would you feel if your husband bought you wrinkle cream without you asking for it?
Lets say you never thought about wrinkle cream before or mention it to him. Would you be upset? Would it mean that he thought you were old and all wrinkled. Would you us the cream?How would you feel if your husband bought you wrinkle cream without you asking for it?
I would feel like he was trying to take care of me. I had a bf by Slim Fast and put it in the fridge once. I turned around kissed him and told him that was the sweetest insult I ever got! We both laughed.How would you feel if your husband bought you wrinkle cream without you asking for it?
I would be offended and in turn I would give him a male enhancement product and see how that went over.
While I think it's definitely easy to be offended by it, sometimes guy logic is just ridiculous. He probably really thought he was doing something nice for you and just looking out for you. If you look at the women in the ads for wrinkle cream, they all look like they started with no wrinkles in the first place, so maybe he's just trying to help you prevent wrinkles from happening... guys have a ';fix it'; logic, and they take care of you and show their love by ';fixing'; problems, so maybe he's just trying to anticipate something that he thinks might make you unhappy and fix it before it becomes a problem.
If you want to say something to him about it, tell him you appreciate that he was thinking about you but it comes off to you as a bit of a backhanded way of showing he cares.
lol, sorry, I had to laugh.
It means he thinks you're getting old.
Ask him, if he is planning on using it as well...l
It depends, did he buy it and just sit it there or did he make a spectacle about buying it. If it is the 1st, then maybe he is just being nice, if it is the latter then maybe you should suggest he look in the mirror at himself. I am married too and I tell you what everyone else has told me, pick your battles.
lol no i wouldn't care, but the one i use is $40. so he better buy that.
not wrinkle cream, Estee Lauder
what a mean thing to do,i would say u want this rubed on or old butt or should i just stick it up there
I would keep my mouth shut and use it. If it makes him happy - who is it going to hurt. It's probably just moisturizer.
Depends...on how he treats you, if he is considerate and loving maybe he was just being nice and thought you'd like it.
My husband actually has gotten me some Clarins facial moisturizer..and yeah its the wrinkle formula because I was complaining about how dry my skin was...the counter lady suggested the cream to him.
I might be a little mad at first but I would probably laugh it off. Since I'm kind of bad for hinting around. For example, I buy him my favorite cologne, or if I think he looks better in a certain color I will get him what I like...and hope he takes my hint. And you gotta wonder if maybe you said something recently bout your skin being dry or anything about aging...he might be patting himself on the back becuse he thinks thats what you wanted
Tell HIM to use it!
I would feel like he was trying to take care of me. I had a bf by Slim Fast and put it in the fridge once. I turned around kissed him and told him that was the sweetest insult I ever got! We both laughed.How would you feel if your husband bought you wrinkle cream without you asking for it?
I would be offended and in turn I would give him a male enhancement product and see how that went over.
While I think it's definitely easy to be offended by it, sometimes guy logic is just ridiculous. He probably really thought he was doing something nice for you and just looking out for you. If you look at the women in the ads for wrinkle cream, they all look like they started with no wrinkles in the first place, so maybe he's just trying to help you prevent wrinkles from happening... guys have a ';fix it'; logic, and they take care of you and show their love by ';fixing'; problems, so maybe he's just trying to anticipate something that he thinks might make you unhappy and fix it before it becomes a problem.
If you want to say something to him about it, tell him you appreciate that he was thinking about you but it comes off to you as a bit of a backhanded way of showing he cares.
lol, sorry, I had to laugh.
It means he thinks you're getting old.
Ask him, if he is planning on using it as well...l
It depends, did he buy it and just sit it there or did he make a spectacle about buying it. If it is the 1st, then maybe he is just being nice, if it is the latter then maybe you should suggest he look in the mirror at himself. I am married too and I tell you what everyone else has told me, pick your battles.
lol no i wouldn't care, but the one i use is $40. so he better buy that.
not wrinkle cream, Estee Lauder
what a mean thing to do,i would say u want this rubed on or old butt or should i just stick it up there
I would keep my mouth shut and use it. If it makes him happy - who is it going to hurt. It's probably just moisturizer.
Depends...on how he treats you, if he is considerate and loving maybe he was just being nice and thought you'd like it.
My husband actually has gotten me some Clarins facial moisturizer..and yeah its the wrinkle formula because I was complaining about how dry my skin was...the counter lady suggested the cream to him.
I might be a little mad at first but I would probably laugh it off. Since I'm kind of bad for hinting around. For example, I buy him my favorite cologne, or if I think he looks better in a certain color I will get him what I like...and hope he takes my hint. And you gotta wonder if maybe you said something recently bout your skin being dry or anything about aging...he might be patting himself on the back becuse he thinks thats what you wanted
Tell HIM to use it!
How deal with your feelings when husband is deployed overseas?
My husband deployed yesterday for a 12 months tour. Right now i am really down because it seems forever till he comes back. We also have a 7 year old daughter and 5 monts old son. That makes it even harder.How deal with your feelings when husband is deployed overseas?
The armed forces have support services available I am not familiar with the US but in Canada wives form support groups as well to provide a network to deal with this issue. I am sorry that you are experiencing this I know it must be hard. I grew up with my dad serving in the Air Force and I remember my mom really keeping busy with other wives as well as hobbies and being an amazing mother as well. All the best.How deal with your feelings when husband is deployed overseas?
You have to be strong for your kids...cry in the shower, cry in bed at night but never let those kids see you cry...after the two week mark you should be ok and into a routine, he should be able to call or email...start making care packages and involve the kids make it a happy fun thing to make those boxes...let them color the outsides of the package.
Its never easy, infact it just gets harder each deployment but you get toughened up to it so to speak and carry on just like he has to. He is the one who is really missing out and you need to remind yourself of that...he is going away to a foreign land, he is doing without all the comforts of home he is going without your touch and seeing his kids...they will grow while he is gone ...you get to see that he wont he misses out.....always remind yourself that he is the one who is truly lonely and sacrificing, you are his strength here at home you are the one holding down the fort....its a tough tough job but you can do it and you will do it. When you are feeling really lonely write letters to him about your future...then mail them off the next day, the time seems like forever now but it will pass faster then you think before you know it he wil be home on R%26amp;R..(now thats a hard goodbye when he has to go back) then youll be counting days until his turn to come home...I've done this for years, lean on the other wives, friends and your family when you need them ...you will be just fine.
It's hard.
Try to get with a support group of other wives if you can. Keep a daily dairy. He will enjoy reading it when he returns home. Your 7 year old can do the same and add a picture to her entries for a lifetime of memories. Take pictures of outings, things you do and start a scrap book so he can re live what he missed when he comes home.
Search online for military wife support groups and forums. There are hundreds of groups out there who connect and keep in contact on the Internet. Some are specific to a certain branch of the military and some are specific to a certain base. Others cover a broader spectrum. Either way, take a look around and see if any meet your needs.
Visit your military installation's support service center. The Navy, Air Force, Army and Marine Corps all have support centers located at their installations. The primary focus of these centers is to support the military family. They will have information about local support groups, base events, services available to you and much more.
Connect with other wives in your husband's unit or squadron. Put aside any stereotypes or reservations you may have about getting involved with the unit and dig in. The families within your unit are often the best source of information if your husband's deployed and even better, they have first hand knowledge of what you're going through.
uh NO dont cheat on him lol wtf...my friend is going through the same thing and you really cant talk to people to who have no idea how you feel...soo what she does is she joined a blog like on myspace and she talks to other girls who can help her and keep her head up. and thats what you should do and maybe meet new people and go out for coffee try and keep your mind off of it as much as you can.
It probably sounds dumb, but keep a diary for yourself or write him letters. You can take all of your anger and sadness out in it and still be strong for your husband and family. Don't cheat on him or anything like that.. it would crush him. It will be a long hard struggle, but believe me, in the end it's worth it.
The first couple of weeks are the hardest, but even though it may be hard to believe now, you will eventually adjust. Keep in touch as much as you possibly can and make him care packages every week. Working on special projects to keep yourself busy helps as well. It will be lonely at times, but you need to stay strong for yourself and for him.
Does he have internet access? and access to a laptop? When my hubs was gone we bought a laptop for him to take and a web cam for the home computer before he left and we both downloaded Skype so we could talk to each other and see each other through the web cam. I know its not the same as being together but being able to see him and talk to him most everyday sure helped :)
We didn't have any children for his 6 deployments, and believe me it is not easy, but i kept myself busy. I started scrapbooking on those long nights, and painting ceramics. I did things I never tried before just to pass the time away. I use to email him three times a day, and we got to webcam a lot. Our first deployment we only had hand written letters.
Chin Up! You both should be commended in this journey.
Become a tourist in your town, look for free things to do, get out there and enjoy the craft show, fairs, events, etc.
cheat on him, thats obviously where you are going with this.
Either that or realize that this is about him, not you. hes the one removed from his home and away from his wife and kids, in some foreign country, possibly to come home in a box.
First off, I truly feel bad for you,It is a long time to be separated from your spouse. Maybe they have military wives groups,hopefully the time will fly by, keep busy..
Call him. He must miss you too.
Focus on all the positive that's going on around you. You have 2 kids who are going to need you. I'm sure they'll miss their father but your their support now and while its hard for you, he is doing his country a great honor and i wish him all the best. 12 month is a long time but keeping in touch will make it easier. Family and friends, activities with the kids... things like that will get you through and hopefully before you know it, he's back at home with his family :)
cheat on him..how would he know?
The armed forces have support services available I am not familiar with the US but in Canada wives form support groups as well to provide a network to deal with this issue. I am sorry that you are experiencing this I know it must be hard. I grew up with my dad serving in the Air Force and I remember my mom really keeping busy with other wives as well as hobbies and being an amazing mother as well. All the best.How deal with your feelings when husband is deployed overseas?
You have to be strong for your kids...cry in the shower, cry in bed at night but never let those kids see you cry...after the two week mark you should be ok and into a routine, he should be able to call or email...start making care packages and involve the kids make it a happy fun thing to make those boxes...let them color the outsides of the package.
Its never easy, infact it just gets harder each deployment but you get toughened up to it so to speak and carry on just like he has to. He is the one who is really missing out and you need to remind yourself of that...he is going away to a foreign land, he is doing without all the comforts of home he is going without your touch and seeing his kids...they will grow while he is gone ...you get to see that he wont he misses out.....always remind yourself that he is the one who is truly lonely and sacrificing, you are his strength here at home you are the one holding down the fort....its a tough tough job but you can do it and you will do it. When you are feeling really lonely write letters to him about your future...then mail them off the next day, the time seems like forever now but it will pass faster then you think before you know it he wil be home on R%26amp;R..(now thats a hard goodbye when he has to go back) then youll be counting days until his turn to come home...I've done this for years, lean on the other wives, friends and your family when you need them ...you will be just fine.
It's hard.
Try to get with a support group of other wives if you can. Keep a daily dairy. He will enjoy reading it when he returns home. Your 7 year old can do the same and add a picture to her entries for a lifetime of memories. Take pictures of outings, things you do and start a scrap book so he can re live what he missed when he comes home.
Search online for military wife support groups and forums. There are hundreds of groups out there who connect and keep in contact on the Internet. Some are specific to a certain branch of the military and some are specific to a certain base. Others cover a broader spectrum. Either way, take a look around and see if any meet your needs.
Visit your military installation's support service center. The Navy, Air Force, Army and Marine Corps all have support centers located at their installations. The primary focus of these centers is to support the military family. They will have information about local support groups, base events, services available to you and much more.
Connect with other wives in your husband's unit or squadron. Put aside any stereotypes or reservations you may have about getting involved with the unit and dig in. The families within your unit are often the best source of information if your husband's deployed and even better, they have first hand knowledge of what you're going through.
uh NO dont cheat on him lol wtf...my friend is going through the same thing and you really cant talk to people to who have no idea how you feel...soo what she does is she joined a blog like on myspace and she talks to other girls who can help her and keep her head up. and thats what you should do and maybe meet new people and go out for coffee try and keep your mind off of it as much as you can.
It probably sounds dumb, but keep a diary for yourself or write him letters. You can take all of your anger and sadness out in it and still be strong for your husband and family. Don't cheat on him or anything like that.. it would crush him. It will be a long hard struggle, but believe me, in the end it's worth it.
The first couple of weeks are the hardest, but even though it may be hard to believe now, you will eventually adjust. Keep in touch as much as you possibly can and make him care packages every week. Working on special projects to keep yourself busy helps as well. It will be lonely at times, but you need to stay strong for yourself and for him.
Does he have internet access? and access to a laptop? When my hubs was gone we bought a laptop for him to take and a web cam for the home computer before he left and we both downloaded Skype so we could talk to each other and see each other through the web cam. I know its not the same as being together but being able to see him and talk to him most everyday sure helped :)
We didn't have any children for his 6 deployments, and believe me it is not easy, but i kept myself busy. I started scrapbooking on those long nights, and painting ceramics. I did things I never tried before just to pass the time away. I use to email him three times a day, and we got to webcam a lot. Our first deployment we only had hand written letters.
Chin Up! You both should be commended in this journey.
Become a tourist in your town, look for free things to do, get out there and enjoy the craft show, fairs, events, etc.
cheat on him, thats obviously where you are going with this.
Either that or realize that this is about him, not you. hes the one removed from his home and away from his wife and kids, in some foreign country, possibly to come home in a box.
First off, I truly feel bad for you,It is a long time to be separated from your spouse. Maybe they have military wives groups,hopefully the time will fly by, keep busy..
Call him. He must miss you too.
Focus on all the positive that's going on around you. You have 2 kids who are going to need you. I'm sure they'll miss their father but your their support now and while its hard for you, he is doing his country a great honor and i wish him all the best. 12 month is a long time but keeping in touch will make it easier. Family and friends, activities with the kids... things like that will get you through and hopefully before you know it, he's back at home with his family :)
cheat on him..how would he know?
How do you deal with a husband who believes every medical drug advertisement pertains to him?
Every time those drug commercial comes on or those lawsuit commercials regarding medical drugs, my husband gets so excited and instantly things that is what he has wrong with him?
Do I just disconnect the tv or have him committed finally?How do you deal with a husband who believes every medical drug advertisement pertains to him?
File a class action suit against him for having to deal with persistent hypochondria..
hey it's the US, you can sue him!!How do you deal with a husband who believes every medical drug advertisement pertains to him?
well he is what we call a hypercondriac. A person with hypochondria is preoccupied with physical health and body. The diagnosis is used when a person during at least 6 months believes, fears or is convinced that he has a serious disease despite medical reassurance. This fear of disease or preoccupation with symptoms is unpleasant, interferes with the patient's daily life in a negative way and leads to medical examinations and/or treatment. The patient can only temporarily accept assurance that there is no physical explanation to his symptoms....
Inform him of what the placebo effect is! lol Otherwise, I agree with the other answerer's. Take him to the doctor with a complete list of what he thinks is wrong with him. Go down the list (maybe he'll feel a little embaressed) and prove them either right or wrong. Next time tell him he will be going solo.
Or reverse psychology...maybe act like you completely agree or flip it around and start doing the same thing. When you see a commercial act like you are worried you might be a ';sufferer'; too lol
I'm sorry to hear about this. Because some cases are serious, hopefully his are not!
He couldn't possibly have all those medical problems, if he did, he'd certainly be a pretty sick man.
Keep him away from the doctors. They love to shell out meds and diagnostic tests that people don't need. But someone has to pay for it.
Many people with hypochondriasis end up spending thousands of dollars, seeing a number of different doctors, and undergoing tests and treatments (even surgery) that they don't need. It's sad.
Replace his pills with vitamins without telling him.
Those drug commercials always make it sound like it is for everyone. They say things like ';Do you have anxiety? Trouble sleeping sometimes? Bad thoughts about yourself at times? At times you are excited, only to be let down later?'; They list things that EVERY person in the world has problems with at times. They do that on purpose so that you will buy their drugs. Just tell him that he is exactly the kind of person they want to think needs their drugs. He needs to stop being gullible and falling for every trap that ad campaigns are setting. I'd hate to see how he gets taken advantage of when he goes car shopping or to a flee market.
Take him to your doctor for a complete physical, blood work, test for diseases, the works. Then he will know for sure what he has and what he don't have. Get a legible printout of the test results and the next time he starts thinking he got something, bring out the test results.
Have him commited. My wife's the same way. She has every symptom of every problem. She sees them and says ';that's what I need for my....depression, arthritis, insomnia, psoriasis...and yadayad. Let's send them both off to the funny farm together...they can compare notes on their afflictions.
Dope slap him then disconnect the T.V. and throw it into a burning trash heap. Or have him call one of the numbers they give on the commercial and have him proved wrong. Husbands are like kids if you humor them they leave you alone.
just nod your head and smile ,let him figure out he's not sick on his own. If he has a problem see your doc. Maybe if you divulge in it he'll realize he's being silly. Maybe you should act just like him to show how he's acting.
He's a hypochondriac. The commercials are targetting people like him. Pathetic, isn't it. Ignore him, and let him call them as much as he wants. He will soon realize he is making a fool of himself.
Prevent him from viewing all commercials, except possibly any Viagra or male enhancement commercials. If that does not work use ear plugs and a blind fold.
So he's got depression, restless leg syndrome, pms cramps, herpes, over active bladder, needs gastric bypass, erectile dysfunction, dry eye AND high cholesterol? Damn....I hope ya'll have health insurance!
Hi's a hypochondriac. Don't pay any attention to him and tell him that one day, he'll really be sick and you won't believe him.
Restless leg syndrome! Side effect is Light handedness, dizziness. vomiting, and inability to urinate.....
Shoot him in the a#$ with a tranquilizer and tell him everythings going to be okay.
hypochondria!
take him to the doctor to prove that there isnt anything wrong with him and maybe they can give you a few tips on how to calm him down
haha. he's funny.
he's probably just funny.
or a really big idiot and you need a divorce.
He's a hypocondriach. They can treat that. I think.
Give him one of your woman's health magazines, if he still feels that way, have him committed.
Hypochondriac much?
well let him take the pills, then he'll have to deal with his own consequences later.
distract him with sex...nothing makes you feel beter than seratonin and dopamine...
he is mentaly ill, right?
Yes he needs Viagra
turn the tv off get him outside and enjoy life..becca mineral foundation
Do I just disconnect the tv or have him committed finally?How do you deal with a husband who believes every medical drug advertisement pertains to him?
File a class action suit against him for having to deal with persistent hypochondria..
hey it's the US, you can sue him!!How do you deal with a husband who believes every medical drug advertisement pertains to him?
well he is what we call a hypercondriac. A person with hypochondria is preoccupied with physical health and body. The diagnosis is used when a person during at least 6 months believes, fears or is convinced that he has a serious disease despite medical reassurance. This fear of disease or preoccupation with symptoms is unpleasant, interferes with the patient's daily life in a negative way and leads to medical examinations and/or treatment. The patient can only temporarily accept assurance that there is no physical explanation to his symptoms....
Inform him of what the placebo effect is! lol Otherwise, I agree with the other answerer's. Take him to the doctor with a complete list of what he thinks is wrong with him. Go down the list (maybe he'll feel a little embaressed) and prove them either right or wrong. Next time tell him he will be going solo.
Or reverse psychology...maybe act like you completely agree or flip it around and start doing the same thing. When you see a commercial act like you are worried you might be a ';sufferer'; too lol
I'm sorry to hear about this. Because some cases are serious, hopefully his are not!
He couldn't possibly have all those medical problems, if he did, he'd certainly be a pretty sick man.
Keep him away from the doctors. They love to shell out meds and diagnostic tests that people don't need. But someone has to pay for it.
Many people with hypochondriasis end up spending thousands of dollars, seeing a number of different doctors, and undergoing tests and treatments (even surgery) that they don't need. It's sad.
Replace his pills with vitamins without telling him.
Those drug commercials always make it sound like it is for everyone. They say things like ';Do you have anxiety? Trouble sleeping sometimes? Bad thoughts about yourself at times? At times you are excited, only to be let down later?'; They list things that EVERY person in the world has problems with at times. They do that on purpose so that you will buy their drugs. Just tell him that he is exactly the kind of person they want to think needs their drugs. He needs to stop being gullible and falling for every trap that ad campaigns are setting. I'd hate to see how he gets taken advantage of when he goes car shopping or to a flee market.
Take him to your doctor for a complete physical, blood work, test for diseases, the works. Then he will know for sure what he has and what he don't have. Get a legible printout of the test results and the next time he starts thinking he got something, bring out the test results.
Have him commited. My wife's the same way. She has every symptom of every problem. She sees them and says ';that's what I need for my....depression, arthritis, insomnia, psoriasis...and yadayad. Let's send them both off to the funny farm together...they can compare notes on their afflictions.
Dope slap him then disconnect the T.V. and throw it into a burning trash heap. Or have him call one of the numbers they give on the commercial and have him proved wrong. Husbands are like kids if you humor them they leave you alone.
just nod your head and smile ,let him figure out he's not sick on his own. If he has a problem see your doc. Maybe if you divulge in it he'll realize he's being silly. Maybe you should act just like him to show how he's acting.
He's a hypochondriac. The commercials are targetting people like him. Pathetic, isn't it. Ignore him, and let him call them as much as he wants. He will soon realize he is making a fool of himself.
Prevent him from viewing all commercials, except possibly any Viagra or male enhancement commercials. If that does not work use ear plugs and a blind fold.
So he's got depression, restless leg syndrome, pms cramps, herpes, over active bladder, needs gastric bypass, erectile dysfunction, dry eye AND high cholesterol? Damn....I hope ya'll have health insurance!
Hi's a hypochondriac. Don't pay any attention to him and tell him that one day, he'll really be sick and you won't believe him.
Restless leg syndrome! Side effect is Light handedness, dizziness. vomiting, and inability to urinate.....
Shoot him in the a#$ with a tranquilizer and tell him everythings going to be okay.
hypochondria!
take him to the doctor to prove that there isnt anything wrong with him and maybe they can give you a few tips on how to calm him down
haha. he's funny.
he's probably just funny.
or a really big idiot and you need a divorce.
He's a hypocondriach. They can treat that. I think.
Give him one of your woman's health magazines, if he still feels that way, have him committed.
Hypochondriac much?
well let him take the pills, then he'll have to deal with his own consequences later.
distract him with sex...nothing makes you feel beter than seratonin and dopamine...
he is mentaly ill, right?
Yes he needs Viagra
turn the tv off get him outside and enjoy life..
What is a good quote my husband can say in his myspace headline?
He wants it to be about, how he is proud of his wife and that im permanent and not going anywhere.
His sisters have been saying mean stuff about me and I have ignored it. They say im replaceable and they are permanent. So he wants to say something about that in my defense.What is a good quote my husband can say in his myspace headline?
She's mine and I love her. Period.What is a good quote my husband can say in his myspace headline?
1=don't hate me cos you aint me
2=you've done a big mistake and i'm laughing at your face
3=you are such a big disgrace to my familys human race
3=don't be jealous when i have something so precious!!
4=if you dont back off i wont be mr.soft
5=I'm the boss of this family ! And i'm already living happily!!
6=she is permanent in my heart but you'll be squashed like a tart!!!!
Be strong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
His sisters have been saying mean stuff about me and I have ignored it. They say im replaceable and they are permanent. So he wants to say something about that in my defense.What is a good quote my husband can say in his myspace headline?
She's mine and I love her. Period.What is a good quote my husband can say in his myspace headline?
1=don't hate me cos you aint me
2=you've done a big mistake and i'm laughing at your face
3=you are such a big disgrace to my familys human race
3=don't be jealous when i have something so precious!!
4=if you dont back off i wont be mr.soft
5=I'm the boss of this family ! And i'm already living happily!!
6=she is permanent in my heart but you'll be squashed like a tart!!!!
Be strong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?
When your marriage turns from marriage to just friendship?
Men, don't you go home and just want to passionately kiss your wife?What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?
I am all over my wife when I get home BUT she pushes me away! Kicks me out the door in the morning when I am trying to kiss her too!
I can't get enough of her I just wish she felt the same way! ! !
Claims that since she has kids pawing all over her all day that she just doesn't need me doing it too????? Heck I will take all the pawing from the kids and still want my wife too! ! ! What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?
A little more background would be helpful. How long married, how old, any kids, etc.
Generally speaking, I have found that couples differ a little to a lot on matters of passion and sexuality. It can be something as simple as the way you kiss. I've known girls who like a firm lipped kiss versus a soft lipped kiss. Where am I going with this?
As you get on in your marriage you get busier and busier, and it becomes easier to forget about dating, love-making, and passion. It really takes a concerted effort to keep it going. While many men love women of all shapes and sizes and will passionately pursue physical contact morning, noon, and night. Many are not so driven.
You may need to light the fire with a date or two. Spice it up with something out of the ordinary sexually. IMHO, the kiss is the most personal, and intimate manifestation of mutual desire. Stoke his fires back up.
I completely disagree with the post above me that when you're married awhile you lose passion and romance. Trust me, that's not true in every case. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and it should be the single most important relationship in your life -- but it does take work to keep it going strong and keep all the gears turning correctly.
See the thing is, I see you saying ';my husband stopped kissing me'; but I don't say anything about you kissing your husband. Are the two of you stuck in one of those ';You do it first'; ruts, or is he flat out refusing to kiss you even if you try to kiss him first?
If he pushes you away when you try: you need to talk to him, ASAP. Sit your husband down and explain to him that you love him very much, and it hurts your feelings when he thwarts your advances for affection or intimacy. Ask him if his feelings for you have changed, and what you can do to help your relationship progress to being close once again. Tell him it hurts you that the two of you have drifted apart, and you'd like to know his standpoint on the whole thing.
If you don't try kissing him either: then you have no right to complain about him not kissing you, missy! It takes two to tango, and someone ALWAYS has to be the initiator, right? This may seem crazy to you but trust me, try it. BE THERE FOR YOUR MAN! be affectionate, be in love, and do things for him. I don't care if he doesn't reciprocate or even seem to enjoy what you're doing for him, do it anyway. I guarantee you that within 2 weeks of you doing all this for him, he WILL start to be more affectionate and loving toward you! When he comes home from work, get up and meet him at the door. Wrap your arms around him, and kiss him passionately. Ask to get him a drink, and go sit with him and ask how his day was. Hold his hand, or run your fingers through the back of his hair. Give him a back rub, and kiss him often. Just trust me on this -- he WILL start to feel closer to you and more willing to initiate affection when he has a wife like this!
It really works, my husband and I hit a rut like this until I read I book that suggested doing what I just listed. I was blaming my hubby for it all but decided to try it anyway. It literally took him like 3 days, and then our relationship was back to normal! :) That was over a year ago, and we still kiss passionately every day, and have sex multiple times a week. We have a very loving, affectionate, intimate relationship and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Good luck!
First it is almost impossible for a relationship to exist in that state of full passion all the time. How could you get anything done? But it should never die. Relationships do develop into friendships which is great but again love the fire.
However It seems more common-I know I will offend-that women let passion wane and then get upset when men do not come home and kiss them.
My wife says this as well. Why didn't you kiss me? Well, why don't you meet me at the door sometimes? Iam busy.
So the expectation is that I should come in, search for you, then kiss you passionately, then to be told you have to finish folding the laundry.
This needs to be an equal thing. Meet him at the door or -with kids-call him in the other room. Kiss him and slide a hand into his pants. Give a thrill with maybe a promise for later. See if things change then.
I always wanted my wife until the she cheated on me. I think back on the years she rejected me and tried to make me feel worthless while I remained faithful and kept trying to make the marriage work.
My suggestion is marriage counseling. If you don't have kids and the counseling doesn't work out then get divorced and start over.
Everyone deserves to be love.
thats the kind of relationship i had with my boyfriend. It wasnt very romantic or passionate. It was never like this from the start. We were more like good friends. The companionship was wonderful and at the time, i took that over anything b/c we had so much in common. Sex just dies after a while or gets boring anyway i figured. I think once you are with th same person for a long time, it gets that way for alot of people. The passion just dies out or gets to be routine like. What do you do? You can try kissing him pasionately first and see what happens. You can try spicing your sex life a bit. You can plan a day where you pamper him? I guess those are the things i would do if that really meant alot to me. Whats bad is when he doesnt kiss you at all but then again, some men are just not affectionate like that. Every man is diff't and expresses their love in diff't ways. My guy (no longer together due to child support issues) showed love through doing things for me around the house and buying things for me like groceries, or just small things i needed that were practical. Thats how he expressed his love for me. There is a book out there that i saw that teaches people diff' ways that love is expressed by couples and sometimes it gets confusing when a couple expreses their affection in different ways. After i had my child, my boyfreind stopped kissing me at bedtime. We used to just give each other a peck on the lips and say ';goodnight';. It wasnt passionate. Then after things got hairy between us due to communication problems about money with regards to new baby, he didnt even do that. I started to worry and asked him and his response was, ';im just tired';. Turns out that he stopped loving me and felt miserable in our relationship. I would talk to your hubby and tell him that you are worried.
Women see kissing as an act of emotionally intimacy. Men see it as an act of sexual intimacy. If a man kisses his wife and it doesn't lead to sex later on that day he will quit kissing her so he doesn't work himself up for no reason.
Sorry to say it but this is the truth.
Just tell him that you need to be kissed to feel loved.
We go up and down on the kissing, it's normal. You have to figure you are good friends but you also have to take some time for romance.
Why wait for your husband to kiss you? Go up and give him a kiss when he gets home, kiss him at random times and make sure you stop and kiss him good night. Take some action :) It is also up to you!
I wish my wife wanted me to kiss her she has made up all
all kinds of excuses not to.
And if she does let me kiss her it definitely is not passionate.
That is one thing I told her that was destroying our marriage.
I guess we need to ask is friendship enough?
Been asking too long now. so all I can say is feel your pain.
Hi Joy
As marriage goes on sometimes some men/women forget that they've still to make a bit of an effort. So when he comes home from work why don't you just plant the lips on him and remind him what hes missing lol He'll soon be rushing in the door at night!
Luv Mags xx
don't kiss him have on some faint but quality cologne, and just happen to stand near him, like to get the remote or something, then walk over and do the dishes, etc and see if he doesn't come after you and kiss you on the neck.-give it time
OH NO! That is not good... let me tell you I always tell my boyfriend to never stop kissing me like if we just met . Bc when you let that passion and desire go away, everything else starts to go away with it. Yes .. sex and kissing and passion isn't everything .. but it counts for a whole lot!
Good Luck
I think thats what just happens when your married and have been together for a while... you loose passion and romance.
Thats why I dont have sex with my fiancee, Im waiting until were married so we can save some romance and passion for the marriage.
my wife stopped kissing me 8 mths back we leave like roomates, hope this changes always wants me to initiate and now she even refuses so it's just not husband who stops it's wives who behave arrogant too and nothing works it's just their stupidity why do they get married
Send the kids to a baby sitter. Dress as best as you can. Have a nice romantic dinner waiting for him. If he doesn't respond then you've got more problems than him just not wanting to kiss you anymore.
Find out why. Ask him, if he won't tell do some investigating. If that doesn't work, then try some counseling if only for yourself.
Maybe just lay one on him.
Yes I do want to kiss her and I do.
Do something in the manner of lipstick or lipgloss to draw attention to your mouth and remind him just how kissable and desireable you are.
Kissing is kissing who cares if we lack a little as long as everything else is good!
You need to work something out, because it's good to be friends but you need passion as well.
At that point I don't even think you're really married anymore, he has become more of a roommate I'd say.
I can't imagine ever reaching a point where I didn't want to kiss my wife.
Kiss someone else. Simple.
Kiss him first.
Men, don't you go home and just want to passionately kiss your wife?What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?
I am all over my wife when I get home BUT she pushes me away! Kicks me out the door in the morning when I am trying to kiss her too!
I can't get enough of her I just wish she felt the same way! ! !
Claims that since she has kids pawing all over her all day that she just doesn't need me doing it too????? Heck I will take all the pawing from the kids and still want my wife too! ! ! What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?
A little more background would be helpful. How long married, how old, any kids, etc.
Generally speaking, I have found that couples differ a little to a lot on matters of passion and sexuality. It can be something as simple as the way you kiss. I've known girls who like a firm lipped kiss versus a soft lipped kiss. Where am I going with this?
As you get on in your marriage you get busier and busier, and it becomes easier to forget about dating, love-making, and passion. It really takes a concerted effort to keep it going. While many men love women of all shapes and sizes and will passionately pursue physical contact morning, noon, and night. Many are not so driven.
You may need to light the fire with a date or two. Spice it up with something out of the ordinary sexually. IMHO, the kiss is the most personal, and intimate manifestation of mutual desire. Stoke his fires back up.
I completely disagree with the post above me that when you're married awhile you lose passion and romance. Trust me, that's not true in every case. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and it should be the single most important relationship in your life -- but it does take work to keep it going strong and keep all the gears turning correctly.
See the thing is, I see you saying ';my husband stopped kissing me'; but I don't say anything about you kissing your husband. Are the two of you stuck in one of those ';You do it first'; ruts, or is he flat out refusing to kiss you even if you try to kiss him first?
If he pushes you away when you try: you need to talk to him, ASAP. Sit your husband down and explain to him that you love him very much, and it hurts your feelings when he thwarts your advances for affection or intimacy. Ask him if his feelings for you have changed, and what you can do to help your relationship progress to being close once again. Tell him it hurts you that the two of you have drifted apart, and you'd like to know his standpoint on the whole thing.
If you don't try kissing him either: then you have no right to complain about him not kissing you, missy! It takes two to tango, and someone ALWAYS has to be the initiator, right? This may seem crazy to you but trust me, try it. BE THERE FOR YOUR MAN! be affectionate, be in love, and do things for him. I don't care if he doesn't reciprocate or even seem to enjoy what you're doing for him, do it anyway. I guarantee you that within 2 weeks of you doing all this for him, he WILL start to be more affectionate and loving toward you! When he comes home from work, get up and meet him at the door. Wrap your arms around him, and kiss him passionately. Ask to get him a drink, and go sit with him and ask how his day was. Hold his hand, or run your fingers through the back of his hair. Give him a back rub, and kiss him often. Just trust me on this -- he WILL start to feel closer to you and more willing to initiate affection when he has a wife like this!
It really works, my husband and I hit a rut like this until I read I book that suggested doing what I just listed. I was blaming my hubby for it all but decided to try it anyway. It literally took him like 3 days, and then our relationship was back to normal! :) That was over a year ago, and we still kiss passionately every day, and have sex multiple times a week. We have a very loving, affectionate, intimate relationship and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Good luck!
First it is almost impossible for a relationship to exist in that state of full passion all the time. How could you get anything done? But it should never die. Relationships do develop into friendships which is great but again love the fire.
However It seems more common-I know I will offend-that women let passion wane and then get upset when men do not come home and kiss them.
My wife says this as well. Why didn't you kiss me? Well, why don't you meet me at the door sometimes? Iam busy.
So the expectation is that I should come in, search for you, then kiss you passionately, then to be told you have to finish folding the laundry.
This needs to be an equal thing. Meet him at the door or -with kids-call him in the other room. Kiss him and slide a hand into his pants. Give a thrill with maybe a promise for later. See if things change then.
I always wanted my wife until the she cheated on me. I think back on the years she rejected me and tried to make me feel worthless while I remained faithful and kept trying to make the marriage work.
My suggestion is marriage counseling. If you don't have kids and the counseling doesn't work out then get divorced and start over.
Everyone deserves to be love.
thats the kind of relationship i had with my boyfriend. It wasnt very romantic or passionate. It was never like this from the start. We were more like good friends. The companionship was wonderful and at the time, i took that over anything b/c we had so much in common. Sex just dies after a while or gets boring anyway i figured. I think once you are with th same person for a long time, it gets that way for alot of people. The passion just dies out or gets to be routine like. What do you do? You can try kissing him pasionately first and see what happens. You can try spicing your sex life a bit. You can plan a day where you pamper him? I guess those are the things i would do if that really meant alot to me. Whats bad is when he doesnt kiss you at all but then again, some men are just not affectionate like that. Every man is diff't and expresses their love in diff't ways. My guy (no longer together due to child support issues) showed love through doing things for me around the house and buying things for me like groceries, or just small things i needed that were practical. Thats how he expressed his love for me. There is a book out there that i saw that teaches people diff' ways that love is expressed by couples and sometimes it gets confusing when a couple expreses their affection in different ways. After i had my child, my boyfreind stopped kissing me at bedtime. We used to just give each other a peck on the lips and say ';goodnight';. It wasnt passionate. Then after things got hairy between us due to communication problems about money with regards to new baby, he didnt even do that. I started to worry and asked him and his response was, ';im just tired';. Turns out that he stopped loving me and felt miserable in our relationship. I would talk to your hubby and tell him that you are worried.
Women see kissing as an act of emotionally intimacy. Men see it as an act of sexual intimacy. If a man kisses his wife and it doesn't lead to sex later on that day he will quit kissing her so he doesn't work himself up for no reason.
Sorry to say it but this is the truth.
Just tell him that you need to be kissed to feel loved.
We go up and down on the kissing, it's normal. You have to figure you are good friends but you also have to take some time for romance.
Why wait for your husband to kiss you? Go up and give him a kiss when he gets home, kiss him at random times and make sure you stop and kiss him good night. Take some action :) It is also up to you!
I wish my wife wanted me to kiss her she has made up all
all kinds of excuses not to.
And if she does let me kiss her it definitely is not passionate.
That is one thing I told her that was destroying our marriage.
I guess we need to ask is friendship enough?
Been asking too long now. so all I can say is feel your pain.
Hi Joy
As marriage goes on sometimes some men/women forget that they've still to make a bit of an effort. So when he comes home from work why don't you just plant the lips on him and remind him what hes missing lol He'll soon be rushing in the door at night!
Luv Mags xx
don't kiss him have on some faint but quality cologne, and just happen to stand near him, like to get the remote or something, then walk over and do the dishes, etc and see if he doesn't come after you and kiss you on the neck.-give it time
OH NO! That is not good... let me tell you I always tell my boyfriend to never stop kissing me like if we just met . Bc when you let that passion and desire go away, everything else starts to go away with it. Yes .. sex and kissing and passion isn't everything .. but it counts for a whole lot!
Good Luck
I think thats what just happens when your married and have been together for a while... you loose passion and romance.
Thats why I dont have sex with my fiancee, Im waiting until were married so we can save some romance and passion for the marriage.
my wife stopped kissing me 8 mths back we leave like roomates, hope this changes always wants me to initiate and now she even refuses so it's just not husband who stops it's wives who behave arrogant too and nothing works it's just their stupidity why do they get married
Send the kids to a baby sitter. Dress as best as you can. Have a nice romantic dinner waiting for him. If he doesn't respond then you've got more problems than him just not wanting to kiss you anymore.
Find out why. Ask him, if he won't tell do some investigating. If that doesn't work, then try some counseling if only for yourself.
Maybe just lay one on him.
Yes I do want to kiss her and I do.
Do something in the manner of lipstick or lipgloss to draw attention to your mouth and remind him just how kissable and desireable you are.
Kissing is kissing who cares if we lack a little as long as everything else is good!
You need to work something out, because it's good to be friends but you need passion as well.
At that point I don't even think you're really married anymore, he has become more of a roommate I'd say.
I can't imagine ever reaching a point where I didn't want to kiss my wife.
Kiss someone else. Simple.
Kiss him first.
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