How can I get my Husband to Clean?

My husband will take off his clothes and throw them over the floor in our bedroom, he will use dishes and leave them in the living room or bed room. I do all the cleaning for the house, he does nothing, it really drives me crazy that I cannot sit down in the living room to relax without having to pick up clothes and toys?


What can I do?


10 points to the person with the best idea.How can I get my Husband to Clean?
Talk to him. If that does not work, cut him off until he comes around.How can I get my Husband to Clean?
get off his rear-end
Honey if you can get an answer to that one, please share it with everyone.... I know what you mean and it drives me crazy!!!! I decided that for one week I wasn't going to pick up anything after him... hoping that he would realize the mess the house was in... guess what he never noticed that the laundry was piling up in the bedroom floor, or the shoes at the front door or even the dishes on the table beside his chair. As the end result I ended up spending my entire Saturday cleaning because his mother called and said she was coming for a visit on Sunday......
I'm sorry your husband is a slob.


But, If you haven't already Talked to him about it, then that is the first step. If he still is committed to being a slob after you ';talking'; not gripping! Then it is time to get tough..lol


If he like fishing tie all his poles together w/ fishing line.. that will keep him busy for sometime getting that undone and he wont be able to dirty nothing in the mean time! If he has his own truck/car... It is now time to Make it look like it belongs to you and the kid's.. Start by hanging signs on his truck baby on board, Then leave half empty milk bottles under his seat! He will love the smell!, If he takes showers you can now begin to hang up all your underwear in his shower to dry!, If he sleeps on the couch(and I'm only guessing here but i think he might!! lol) You can make sure all the laundry is piled up on the sofa where he sleeps!


And beings that He likes things dirty, Heck don't wash his socks and underwear just put um back in his draw!!!! Why waste time washing his things. Hope this helps if not I have some other things that might!!!! good luck!
If he brings home a wage that covers the bills and food and you get some to spend yourself then I'm sorry....pick up the clothes and toys.





The four words that should be not used in a family are ';he';, ';me';, ';I'; and ';him';.....it should only be ';we';. Have a look at your question.
You need to tell him. Men do not think like women and women do not think like men. Don't gripe at him about it. Just say, ';put your dishes in the dishwasher when you are through eating and put your clothes in the dirty clothes hamper when you take them off please.'; Say this everyday until he doesn't need to be told anymore. Put a note on the floor where he throws his clothes with arrows pointing to the direction of the hamper. These two things are very small things to fight over. Not worth it.
Instead of picking up my DH stuff I starts mauling it over, paying it no mind at all.


He leaves his $200 shoes in the garage where I park- I ran them over.


He leaves his clothes on the floor- they don't get washed.


He leaves his dirty dish at the table- that same dirty dish would be there for the next meal.


He leaves his CD's or MP3 out- the kids play with it and break it.





This method will take some ';grin and bear it'; from you for a while but soon he will see the consequence of his actions. Especially when it gets to something he really cares about, (like those shoes or the MP3 in my case).
LOL! Join the crowd sister! I don't know if this will work for you but it worked for me. My husband and I had this arguement over and over again until I finally decided to put my foot down. I explained to him that I am not his personal maid and that he should have enough respect to clean up after himself. I told him that whatever I found lying around would be considered trash and that's exactly where it would wind up. So every time I would find his shoes lying around or his clothes in a heap on the floor I would throw them in a trash bag. (a clean one of course) It didn't take long and he was tired of fishing thru a trash bag in order to find his things. Sometimes I would put his shoes at the bottom of the basement steps. That way when he needed his shoes he would have to walk downstairs to get them. He couldn't stand it. I stopped washing his clothes until he placed them in the hamper like he's supposed to do. That's not asking much. I think I've got him pretty much trained now. It's not that we're being demanding, it's just that there's a certain level of respect that we deserve for doing all of the house work. I've asked him before, ';How would you feel if I went to your work and trashed your office every day?'; I think he gets it now. I hope this helps you. :)
From the point of view of the 'guy' I can say that he honestly doesn't care if its clean.





It boils down to: I don't want it clean, you do.





So give him an incentive to want the place clean. I don't know what kind of guy your husband is, but if you throw a 'party' for his friends every month that he keeps the house clean that might do the trick.





Alternatively, you could let him do something you know he likes (say, going to the bar) more often if he keeps the house clean.
You may have to talk with him openly about how his laziness is affecting you... He's your husband you should be able to say- ';Honey, I would really appreciate it if you would bring your dirty plates/dishes into the kitchen when you are finished'; OR ';Honey, while I'm in the kitchen (cleaning) could you please pick up the childrens toys THANKS !';





He may NOT realize that he's being lazy and he's gotten used to you doing EVERYTHING so why should he change.. You have to tell them !





If you are a SAHM you BEST solution is to find evening part-time work so that he has to manage the house/kids while you are working... The job doesn't have to be hard or last 8 hours EVERY night but, it does give your husband a chance to do the things that you do AND you make a little money for yourself...





I'm a SAHM but, I work a small part-time job a few evenings a week... I LOVE going to work because it's a little spending money and it's easier than being at home.. I make friends and I get to socialize for a few hours a night ! While I'm at work my husband knows that I like him to leave the house the same way I have it for him.. .That means the kitchen is clean AFTER he makes dinner for the kids. The toys are picked up, laundry folded and put away and the children bathed....





That's the BEST idea !
omg lol you sound just like me my husband does the same thing !! he makes me feel like I'm cleaning up after my kids ! Ive done it all nothing works Ive tried not washing his clothes in punishment lol all that did was drive me nuts and i even put the clothes hamper in the bedroom didn't work as for dishes he still lets them lay in the floor and as for the dishes me and my sister in law are thinking of all plastic ware ha,ha
My wife complaint about this to me ................and finaly she stop doing all that cleaning our bedroom and i got angry on her





We have good fight i finaly i give up i care for her i clean it if i do


that





in your case it is normal don't worry


he perposely don't do that he forget offen like that





don't tell him any thing and stop cleaning that for a wile he will


notice and complant about it





have a good fight and forget he will be on track like me( lol )





Best off luck








There was joke i remmeber





a husband returen frm his office


he enter in the home





He see the door is open cloth is every where


and basen water flowing out from kitchen and all of mud is


in the living room and wet towel over the sofa he get panic


and run to wards the bed room and notic his wife is reading novel





he ask to his wife what the hell is that it is house or garbage





and his wife camly replay today she has not done any thing


what you alway's complaint about that i don't do any thing


in this house