How do I get my husband to trust me again?

I recently separated with my husband because I cheated on him. We are currently working on our relationship and I am trying to get him to trust me again, but no matter what I say he thinks I am lying. Is there anyway to get him to trust me? I am willing to do anything.How do I get my husband to trust me again?
If you're serious about doing anything, then this is what you do:





You let him deal with it in HIS way, in HIS time.





It takes WORK - and if you thought marriage was difficult before you cheated, that was a picnic compared to the work you need to do now.





What this means is: If he needs to talk about it, YOU TALK.





If he needs time apart, then you give it to him.





If he needs to keep bringing it up all the time, then so be it.





This is the price you have to pay, and if it takes him a year of talking about it every single day, then TOO BAD. You are not allowed to reject him for anything. You can't tell him no, you're done talking about it. If he wants to see your cel phone for texts or to see the bill (because you can easily delete), then you have to show him. If he wants you to check in with him, then DO IT. If he wants to check your email account, then he checks it. You have to bend over backwards to prove yourself to him until he is done - however long it takes.





See, guys are incredibly sensitive where their women are concerned. As backwards as this sounds, they really are like cavemen deep down. We are their 'property' as sex partners, and when you let another man into 'their territory', all he thinks about now is you and him: Whether this other guy was bigger, if he pleased you better than your man, what positions you did it in, how many times you got off, if he's a better kisser, if his body is in better shape, if you think about the guy very much, if you miss him, if you love him, if you swallowed, and most of all: if you did it once, what's to stop you from doing it again? THAT is what you did when you allowed another guy into your body.





It wasn't just that you had sex. See, here's the thing about trust - it's very fragile and once broken, it's really hard to build again. You did more than cheat on your husband - you shredded his faith and belief in you. You took all the warmth, all the love, all that goody good stuff, and the respect he had for you, and took a chainsaw to it. Now, you tell me how you put that back together again.





If you're willing to do anything, then show him.





Best of luckHow do I get my husband to trust me again?
Everyone's made mistakes, understand that, and except that in the future you will make more. Hopefully you won't do anything like this again, but we all live and learn.





Your husband has every right to feel the way that he does. You broke the trust barrier between you two for whatever reason, instead of discussing with him the problems you were having in the marriage, and not knowing if you can trust someone or not, is a hard relationship to be a part of.





I'd give him some time to come around and just BE around more often. No more lying, sneaking around etc. Cut off the other guy COMPLETELY!!! If things don't get better after counseling, or after a decent amount of time has gone by, you may have to just chalk this one up as a loss and come to terms with the fact that your marriage is over. Live and learn girl, live and learn. That's all I gotta say. Good luck and God Bless. Pray on it.





-Knowledge26
He may never actually ';trust'; you again. You can be nice to him, be very sexual, and even tell him that he's ';better'; than the man you had sex with. Begging him to ';trust'; you will waste both of your time. You can use his own insecurities to your own advantage if you're careful enough not to hurt his feelings. Some men are turned on by the idea of their wife getting it on with someone else, even though they either won't admit it, or maybe they don't understand why they're turned on by the thought, so they get mad because they don't know what else to do. If he loves you still, he will eventually get over it. Be patient.
i was in that situation. but we had a long distance relationship. i ended up leaving everything behind and moved back with him so he could know that i was willling to do anything for him and gain his trust back.


you could maybe ask him if there is something you can do. you of course can speak for yourself and say ';you can trust me'; but its just up to him to get over the situation.


it will take time and he might, just might, take it out on you from time to time but if he really loves you he'll be able to look past it and be a bigger person. rather than seek revenge. even thats not an option on his behalf
i honestly dont know if there is a MAGICAL way to make someone trust you again but i know that after my bf cheated on me it was hard to trust him at first but after that it got alittle easier and i had to make myself cause i knew i loved him and i knew i couldnt be with him if i didnt trust him, but just remember ur husband may forgive you but he will never forget what you did, it will always be in the back of his mind
you have to be patient you can't expect him to trust you after whta you put him through ask your eslf how whould you feel if he cheated on you look you have to examine why you did it in the first place and explain it to him an you cannot put the blame on him sheesh that your evern together is saying taht he cares about you a lot the trust is going to ome after you can prove that you love him thoroughly ans it seems you do not at this piont
What you did is the equivilant of puplicly kicking him in the balls repeatedly while simultaneously ripping his heart out. If i were him i could never look at your fazce again, but then again i am selfish, i see no point in carrying around a hurt like that with me, waking up to it everyday and going to sleep with it at night...if he still talks to you thank your gods....but dont push it.
Get on your knees and beg. Let your life be an open book for him to view and don't lie about anything. ANYTHING!





You are about to lose your husband don't hold back tell him everything that you are feeling. Tell him how he makes you feel when he holds you tight in his arms. Tell him how special it makes you feel when he looks at you with lust in his eyes. Be aggressive and don't hold back.
yep - he has that option - he doesn't trust you for good reason. If you are ever caught in so much as a half truth - you will be condemned with good reason - stay your course and if you are willing to listen to his insecurities caused by you - it may just work out in the long run
Stay the course it will take a lot of time just be the women he fell in love with again.Treat him as you would like to be treated and never tell him the sex was better than him.
tell him everything. don't hide anything. tell him things he wouldn't otherwise find out about. let him look at your phone and computer or anything else he is curious about.
No. Personally I would never even bother trying to work it out after someone did something like that.
1-time





#2-he needs to want to trust you again





Try counsling together.
He might never trust You the same but if you keep being completely honest it will get better. Good luck.
counseling, together and separate.
If he is still suspicious like, a week or so after the cheating,





he'll always be suspicious.





You sure have to put up with a lot with that guy. sheesh...