Tell him that in no uncertain terms he will stop this disrespectful, illicit and disgusting request. If he does not, changes will be made. The next time he brings up the topic, say nothing, but sleep in another room.
When he leaves for work, change the locks on all of the doors %26amp; windows. Put his clothes in the travel luggage and set them outside the door with a note that reads: ';I do love you but you refuse to love %26amp; respect me. You will not be in my home or in my life as long as you insist on living porn fantasies and disrespecting me any further.';
[ Don't know how long he's been watching porn, this is a definite sign that it's been going on for a long time. Check the 'history' of your home computer.]
Follow through. Stand-up for yourself, gather your friends %26amp; family support group. Tell him that you will meet with him... only with a marriage counselor present. Let your phone(s) take all of the calls and messages he will make. When he agrees to your terms, then you may have a chance to regain the man you love and married and he may have a new respect for you.How do I get my husband to quit bugging me to be with a woman?
The truth is, he wants to cheat on you with this woman, but he doesn't want to lose you. If he can get you to be with this woman, then he has the excuse he needs to be with her too. I'm sure he is also hoping to have a three some with the both of you.
Tell your husband, what you told us and also that you are sorry he doesn't want to have a normal marriage, but you do and if he ever ask you to be with this woman or anyone else ever again, then there is no point in the two of you staying together. Either he accepts and loves you for the way you are or it's over. If he tries to argue with you and continues the subject of this woman, then yell at him, ';DID YOU HEAR ME? I'M SICK OF THIS AND I DON'T EVER WANT YOU TO BRING THIS SUBJECT UP TO ME AGAIN OR I'M GOING TO LEAVE YOU. PERIOD!!!!!!!! Now shut up or get out!
I would focus on it remaining a fantasy. Ask if he if really wants to risk everything for a night of a threesome, of course that would diminish the fantasy because there has to be a hint that it could come true to make it real as a fantasy.
I would probably ask just after sex with him, when he will not have sex as high on the totem pole.
Maybe try to find a new fantasy for him.
Wow, sucks to be you. I think I’d have to stoop to his level, I’d ask “do I get to pick the guy or do you,” Oh, and honey after your finished packing fudge, your bags will be waiting for you, don’t let the door hit you in the@$$…
Tell him you want to be with him and another man and see how he reacts! I'm sure he'll say no, so ask him how he'd feel if you kept pestering him about something he was absolutely not going to do. If he realizes how annoying he is, he may stop. Just a thought!
Give in..He seems to have this need and seriously..if he doesn't get it from you and if he becomes obsessed about it..he very well may go find it somwhere else. Alteast at home you can have a controlled environment.
I find that weird. I thought long time married couples were into that deal. LIke the ones in their 40's and have been married for over 15 yrs. I guess I am wrong on this. Try getting him away from internet porn, that might help. GL
Perhaps you could tell him you are well aware of his wish, and if you ever change your mind, you will let him know, but meanwhile the answer is no and you are really tired of hearing about it.
Like others have said: Ask him to to get with a DUDE!Tell him you are emotionally connected with him and do not need anyone else! Tell him he is offending you. He just wants to get a fresh piece of meat!
Tell him you're leaving. And be serious about it. The past is the past and you're being honest. He may as well say he wants to bang your friends with your consent. Why do you put up with it?
just put your foot down and make it clear to him that you ARE NOT going to do that so he can stop asking
He probably has nothing else to look forward to so just do it.
Ask him how he feels about being with another man..that might just shut him up!
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