I agree. Have the doctor who is treating you (if you aren't seeing a Dr yet, please do so) sit down with your husband to explain to him what depression is and how it works and then your hubby can ask questions and such.How do I get my Husband to understand my depression?
I'm actually in the same situation as you. I almost feel like he doesn't believe that there's something wrong with me. What I have realised though, is that no one can actually understand the pain that we are going through, they can't quite comprehend how deep that feeling is. Depression is a mental illness, it's very personal. I don't really know how to get him to understand except for getting him to talk to someone who's in the same situation. Try to be strong and get help. I hope you feel better soon.
Explain that depression, while categorized as ';mental'; illness, is an illness just the same.
Much like one gets sick when their immunity is down, depression happens because one's seratonin/dopamine levels are down.
It's a real problem with a medical cause.
Explain that people think ';sad'; when they hear depressionbut it's not just sadness.
Depressed immunity = illnesses of various sorts.
Depressed seratonin/dopamine levels = clinical depression. Simple as that.
Simple answer, you can't. He is not suffering the pain. How would I understand the pain of a broken leg unless I had broken mine.
Since this is your problem, it becomes your responsibility to deal with it. I would suggest you must consult with a professional. It will only get worse as time goes by. My best to you.
Have him to follow you to therapy. Then he will get to listen to your feelings and talk to the therapist who may be able to shed some light on your problems with your husband.
Talk to him... tell him he is being a selfish pig, and if he still doesn't understand, threaten to leave him.
Have you never gotten help for your depression? Contact your MD, get a referral for a therapist and treatment, which includes medication. Your husband can benefit by speaking with the therapist about depression, to make him understand.
You need to take him to a therapy session. I've had the same problem with my husband and my ex-fiancee (one of the reasons he is my ex). Now my husband doesn't like my problems...and hates hearing me talk about it. But he knows my medication is making me much better than I was pre-medicated, so he has stopped complaining and treating me like a baby.
Do you see a psychiatrist for this? Definitely take him with you. Tell your doctor beforehand so he can be prepared to explain some major things to him. Good luck!
Have him read up on it or talk to a Doctor to explain things before something bad happens
If your not seeing psychiatrist already maybe find one, explain to them what's going on with husband and ask him to help you explain things to him. If you are seeing psychiatrist, explain things and see if he can help.
Have you tried anti depression pills and a theropist ?
First of all, I don't see why the answerers are referring to your husband as a ';selfish pig.'; It's impossible to understand depression if you've never suffered from it, and having empathy for depressed people is difficult when it seems like everything is fine. It could be that your husband feels guilty for your depression, and doesn't want to accept its validity. He might actually be depressed himself and discount your feelings. The best advice I can give you is this:
Sit him down for a serious talk, and explain to him why you're depressed. Don't put all the guilt on him or get angry if he doesn't seem to understand. Tell him that it's something you've had to deal with since you were a teenager, and that it isn't anything you can just get over. Try to help him understand what you're feeling and that you need his support. Then let him talk. You're going to have to work together to get through this stage of your lives. It's not going to be easy, but this is how love is proven and strengthened.
Communicate-Communicate-Communicate. Tell him how you constantly feel. He might get tired of it, but if he felt your pain, he might be more understanding than treating it like a minor problem.
All of a sudden, it can't be cured. Take diversions hear good music and do meditation. Avoid things which make you anger
Dont open for all questions keep calm sometimes try to avoid arguments. Try to avoid justified also. Share your views with your better half when he is in good mood All the best
talk to him as to why ua re depressed..
i have been depressed since i can remember.. and for the past 2 and a half years i hav no longer had any depression.. yes once in a while iget down
but ususaly im happy as can be.. and teh only reason that happens is because i figured out the reaosn that caused my depression
confronted it..
took anti depressants
turned suicidal.. attempted suide...
turend to alchol
and then got arrested.. i guess u can say i droped to the lowest i cud ever be.. and then it hit me
im only depressed cuz i allow my self to be n its turning me into a future reck
n since then ive been happy
my mom has never understood depression either...shes very narrow minded and always says why are u deprssed we never beat u u have no reason to be.. n the only ohter ppl who get drpsesed are ppl that have no jobs n are stressed.. u dont ahve that problem either
ive taken her to my doctor and everythign but some ppl just dotn wana hear it
ive talked to councilor after councilor...
and really u cant change other ppls thinking
u can only ur self be positive about things
n dont let things bug u... i stil get upest allot but i dont think i wud say im deprsed
just look at everhting posiitvlely
im sure uve heard this over and over again n think its bs... but seriously
thats wat got me thro it
good luck
Go see a professional and take him along with you.
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