What do you do when your husband keeps leaving you?

He will leave for a few days and then return and expect things to carry on as normal.


What should I do?What do you do when your husband keeps leaving you?
don't worry nat, he's here with me.What do you do when your husband keeps leaving you?
Here's what would happen if this was me and my husband:


The first time he left, I would only agree to him coming back after extensive couples counselling.


The second time he left, there would be no way on God's green earth he would ever come back.





The reason why your husband treats your marriage like it has a revolving door on it is because you've been letting get away with it. I would be most interested to find out what he does during those few days he's away. My advice to you is to change the locks on the doors, get yourself checked for STDs and get a good divorce attorney.
Tell him that the next time he leaves, stay gone. It's disrespectful to you. Do not tolerate this behavior. It is completely unacceptable. Another thing you can try is leaving for a few days yourself, come back and act like nothing happened. Go stay with friends or family. See how he likes it. Hold your ground girl and, when he questions where you've been, etc., give him the same song and dance he's been giving you.
You need to put an immediate stop to this. He thinks he can just get up and take off for a few days and u are waiting there like the ';good wife'; for him to return when he feels like it??? I don't think so. Even if u love him, u really need to let him know this is not working. Whether u need to get your own place for awhile or have him move out, he needs to see that this is not acceptable. As long as u are there waiting for him every time he does this, he will continue to do it. Have more respect for yourself and know u deserve better than this.
.........What do you think you should do? I really want to know how you feel about this because if I were in that situation it would only take one time for him to leave me for a few days...just one time and I'm either gone or in jail for attempting to beat the devil out of him because obviously he has lost his mind. Have you seen Waiting to Exhale? Since he can't seem to stay his *** home you put his clothes and shoes on the front lawn and strike a match. What do you think he's doing when he's gone unless it's a business trip?
Why does he leaves for days? Where does he goes? Why are you letting this things happening? Do you know the answer to all of this questions?.


If nothing is been talked, discussed, or questioned between you and him.


The answer is clear; Because you're allowing this! It's not normal.


Before this happened again, you should sit down with him and put all your cards in the table. Ask him and if there is no answer; Let him go but this time forever..who knows, where he's been or with who???


I will recommend marriage therapy





Good luck!
Just sit down and talk to him


Just have a friendly talk and don't sound too aggressive when asking him this, but just ask him why he's been doing this.





Just question all the stuff that you told us, directly confront him about the problem.





Ask him maybe if he just needs more time alone for more time than he's gone for usually.


He probably just wants some time alone.





You have to try and read the signs that are there





Sorry, my answer didn't come out the way i wanted it to sound, but i tried my best. I hope it helps, if it does, please tell me somehow.





And I've had no personal experience in this situation; i just told you what i think might be best since the other answers to this question aren't that great. No offense people.
Either start packing so you can move out the next time he takes off. Or change the locks to all the doors on the house the next time he takes off.





He's either got a drug problem, or someone else on the side that's hes cheating with. There isn't any other reason why any married person would leave like that.
I had a wife like that, So I told her if she ever did it again it was over. She never did it again. Make it real clear. It's just a control thing. They think they can get away with more if you feel they might leave. Let him know real clear, Never again. If you leave , stay gone. cause your stuff will be put in storage until after the Divorce is finnal.


Dont take crap like this from anyone lady.


jp
Consult with a divorce attorney to plan the best possible outcome for your divorce. A ';now you see it now you don't'; marriage is no marriage at all. You deserve a full-time committed husband. File for divorce and slowly start your way towards that.
wake up he is cheating on you. if you have a home computer he uses put on spectator a spy program , or follow him .. he is a very bad man.do some leaving of your own, see how he likes it..las vegas is fun and there are lots of sexy men there to play with..be gone have fun..he is..
First time we got back together (after a separation) The second time I had all the locks changed...divorce followed....I did warn him about a second time so he couldn't say he didn't know..lol





But my case was different-he was actually walking out on the marriage.





Insist he explain himself..until he does it is NOT business as usual.
why are you asking us you need to have a very long talk yo your man because me and my soon to be wife just finished our premarital counseling and for there to be a healthy relationship there must be Communication!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Pack your things now and leave him. If you don't have kids then take his crap. If you have kids it's you responsibility to teach then better.
stop allowing it. If you want him, then find out why he keeps leaving. If you don't want him, then let him go and tell him to stay gone.
Turn about is fair play, leave him for a few days and have some fun hon.
Tell him to tell you where he leaves to and why. This isnt the 50s, he isnt your property. BUT he needs to communicate.
ask him where he keeps going and if he doesn't tell you, file for divorce because he is obviously screwing around
Stop being a doormat and stop taking him back. Once he's gone make sure he's gone for good.
Work on the Things that are Making him Leave.
Change the lock on the doors. sounds like he's cheating. where do you think he's sleeping?
I will not tolerate such behaviour. How dare he!!! It will be ME leaving his a$$ for good!
Change the locks, and throw one hell of a ILF party next time he goes


away......
Change the locks. Get an attorney.
HAVE SEX WITH HIM IMMEDIATELY BECAUSE HE COULD BE GONE IN AN INSTANT.





WOW! SUCH NEGATIVITY FROM ALL THESE WOMEN!!
Follow him.
You will have to start tying him up.
Change the locks then file. He can only cry wolf so many times...
obviously he's going somewhere else, so don't let it slide....
Go cry on Pimpy's shoulder.
Not be there the next time he comes back..unless he's leaving because of his job.