What would you think of a husband who gives you the silent treatment and sometimes doesn't come home at all?

My husband gets mad about the littlest things and won't speak to me for days. He works night shift and sometimes he doesn't even come home after work at all and if he does he'll lock himself in the room. What would you do?What would you think of a husband who gives you the silent treatment and sometimes doesn't come home at all?
Assuming you are even close to describing how things are, I hope you'd be a good enough person to think well of him and to wish him well. But, I wouldn't recommend you live with him, unless you actually know in your heart that he truly loves you, but is just like a lot of us guys- retarded about being honest and open. But, spouses just don't get to not come home now and then. That, and locking himself in his rooms is just too odd. Sounds like a real mental problem like depression, or worse, or else drugs.What would you think of a husband who gives you the silent treatment and sometimes doesn't come home at all?
I see the problem: ';husband gets mad about the littlest things';. Have you considered the possibility that these little things might not be so little to him? Just because they are little to you does not mean their are insignificant or unimportant. Perhaps they are, in fact, little things. But so what? They still mean something to him, and that's what should matter most. Show him you care and are willing to make little things important enough to consider the same way he does. He will appreciate it and love you for it.
Mrs S...it sounds as though he may need to seek professional help...men normally don't lock themselves in rooms from the wives...I can see not speaking to you or not coming home to you but it seems there's a bigger problem that has taken place here. He works at night that means he's home during the day alone. Is he having an affair and is ashamed of telling you? Write him a note asking him to respond by the note and he doesn't have to talk to you directly but write it down and let him know that you are trying to help him because you love him and hates to see him unhappy. Don't allow your emotions to cloud what needs to be done, try and find out what's going on with him.
I would ask him to talk to you and tell you why he's acting this way (I'm assuming he hasn't always been like this). If he opens up to you, no matter what it is, keep your temper in check because he's at least telling you the truth about something. If he refuses to talk to you, then personally, I would tell him since he obviously wants his own space, he needs to move the hell out and go HAVE his own space.
I'm sorry but I wouldn't tolerate that kind of behavior. A great marriage is built on a dedication to open and honest communication. A desire to ALWAYS talk it out and find a solution everyone can be happy with. Finding a compromise. I am lucky to have found someone who believes all this as much as I do.... You need to be strong and find a way to tell him that you need better communication from him if he wants this marriage to succeed. If he doesn't respond well, you have your answer.
He's lost interest in you period, and/or has another relationship going on. Providing you with the opportunity of getting upset, so he can justify his ways. Is he into porn? Where's the computer when his door is locked? Dress up go out. or stay overnight with a girlfriend, then see what silent Sam says. Move on because he has.
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He is probably tired of you considering all his concerns as the ';littlest things';. My guess is that you have not been listening very well.
I guess all those night shifts are making him cranky. My dad is kinda that way. Just talk it out with him; he may not even be mad at you, it could be something else going on in his life.
Personally, He may be running around and hiding it by getting mad at you. Just a thought.
sounds as if he is up to no good. either you need to have a major talk or it is time to give up.
either tell him he needs to be honest, communicate, and work on the relationship ---- or leave!
Leave him because his actions are saying that he is up to no good.
I'd get busy learning how to relate and get what you both want.
Sounds like you married a little boy.
Sounds like it's time for a new husband!
I would suspect cheating
I would think of him as the soon-to-be ex-husband.
Buy him some Pull-Ups, powder his bottom and prepare his bottle. That's what all babies need.
Get a divorce...seriously. Who wants to live like this?
I know when I'm in a bad mood I avoid my wife.


Are you certain he is doing it on purpose?