How deal with your feelings when husband is deployed overseas?

My husband deployed yesterday for a 12 months tour. Right now i am really down because it seems forever till he comes back. We also have a 7 year old daughter and 5 monts old son. That makes it even harder.How deal with your feelings when husband is deployed overseas?
The armed forces have support services available I am not familiar with the US but in Canada wives form support groups as well to provide a network to deal with this issue. I am sorry that you are experiencing this I know it must be hard. I grew up with my dad serving in the Air Force and I remember my mom really keeping busy with other wives as well as hobbies and being an amazing mother as well. All the best.How deal with your feelings when husband is deployed overseas?
You have to be strong for your kids...cry in the shower, cry in bed at night but never let those kids see you cry...after the two week mark you should be ok and into a routine, he should be able to call or email...start making care packages and involve the kids make it a happy fun thing to make those boxes...let them color the outsides of the package.


Its never easy, infact it just gets harder each deployment but you get toughened up to it so to speak and carry on just like he has to. He is the one who is really missing out and you need to remind yourself of that...he is going away to a foreign land, he is doing without all the comforts of home he is going without your touch and seeing his kids...they will grow while he is gone ...you get to see that he wont he misses out.....always remind yourself that he is the one who is truly lonely and sacrificing, you are his strength here at home you are the one holding down the fort....its a tough tough job but you can do it and you will do it. When you are feeling really lonely write letters to him about your future...then mail them off the next day, the time seems like forever now but it will pass faster then you think before you know it he wil be home on R%26amp;R..(now thats a hard goodbye when he has to go back) then youll be counting days until his turn to come home...I've done this for years, lean on the other wives, friends and your family when you need them ...you will be just fine.
It's hard.





Try to get with a support group of other wives if you can. Keep a daily dairy. He will enjoy reading it when he returns home. Your 7 year old can do the same and add a picture to her entries for a lifetime of memories. Take pictures of outings, things you do and start a scrap book so he can re live what he missed when he comes home.





Search online for military wife support groups and forums. There are hundreds of groups out there who connect and keep in contact on the Internet. Some are specific to a certain branch of the military and some are specific to a certain base. Others cover a broader spectrum. Either way, take a look around and see if any meet your needs.





Visit your military installation's support service center. The Navy, Air Force, Army and Marine Corps all have support centers located at their installations. The primary focus of these centers is to support the military family. They will have information about local support groups, base events, services available to you and much more.





Connect with other wives in your husband's unit or squadron. Put aside any stereotypes or reservations you may have about getting involved with the unit and dig in. The families within your unit are often the best source of information if your husband's deployed and even better, they have first hand knowledge of what you're going through.
uh NO dont cheat on him lol wtf...my friend is going through the same thing and you really cant talk to people to who have no idea how you feel...soo what she does is she joined a blog like on myspace and she talks to other girls who can help her and keep her head up. and thats what you should do and maybe meet new people and go out for coffee try and keep your mind off of it as much as you can.
It probably sounds dumb, but keep a diary for yourself or write him letters. You can take all of your anger and sadness out in it and still be strong for your husband and family. Don't cheat on him or anything like that.. it would crush him. It will be a long hard struggle, but believe me, in the end it's worth it.
The first couple of weeks are the hardest, but even though it may be hard to believe now, you will eventually adjust. Keep in touch as much as you possibly can and make him care packages every week. Working on special projects to keep yourself busy helps as well. It will be lonely at times, but you need to stay strong for yourself and for him.
Does he have internet access? and access to a laptop? When my hubs was gone we bought a laptop for him to take and a web cam for the home computer before he left and we both downloaded Skype so we could talk to each other and see each other through the web cam. I know its not the same as being together but being able to see him and talk to him most everyday sure helped :)
We didn't have any children for his 6 deployments, and believe me it is not easy, but i kept myself busy. I started scrapbooking on those long nights, and painting ceramics. I did things I never tried before just to pass the time away. I use to email him three times a day, and we got to webcam a lot. Our first deployment we only had hand written letters.





Chin Up! You both should be commended in this journey.





Become a tourist in your town, look for free things to do, get out there and enjoy the craft show, fairs, events, etc.
cheat on him, thats obviously where you are going with this.





Either that or realize that this is about him, not you. hes the one removed from his home and away from his wife and kids, in some foreign country, possibly to come home in a box.
First off, I truly feel bad for you,It is a long time to be separated from your spouse. Maybe they have military wives groups,hopefully the time will fly by, keep busy..
Call him. He must miss you too.
Focus on all the positive that's going on around you. You have 2 kids who are going to need you. I'm sure they'll miss their father but your their support now and while its hard for you, he is doing his country a great honor and i wish him all the best. 12 month is a long time but keeping in touch will make it easier. Family and friends, activities with the kids... things like that will get you through and hopefully before you know it, he's back at home with his family :)
cheat on him..how would he know?