They aren't seeing a therapist.........he's still cheating on you with her.
I've never heard of anything like that before.
And IF they were seeing a therapist together, why aren't you allowed to the sessions to tell both her and your husband how you feel about the affair and how it has effected your marriage?
And the therapist would be telling them both how wrong they were for having the affair.What does it mean if your husband is going to counseling with the other woman?
It means that he is working on his relationship...With Her. The two of you should be the ones going to counseling, being that it's Your relationship that is at risk here. Who gives a damn what she is feeling and going through right now. You need to realize that they are continuing their affair and that the counseling sessions is just another exscuse for them to spend more time together. They are making you look like a real fool right now and it's very sad you can't see that. You need to wake up and smell the coffee.
I would put a stop to this. This man is your husband and if he is going to go to counseling with anyone it should be you. If he wants to remain your husband that he should not be having a relationship with this woman. You need to talk to him about this and come to a place where you feel comfortable. He should be putting you first as you are his wife. Remember if you let him treat you like a door mat than he will walk all over you.
It means your marriage is over...your husband is devoting his time to another woman's emotional well being and you are consulting yahoo answers for yours....YOU DO THE MATwouldn'touldnt trusthusbandusabnd, definitely not the other woman or the allegcounselinging.
You should get out of that messy situation and seek some counseling of your own.
If you are really his wife, step up and put your damn foot down. This should have been a mutual decision between the two of you! The simple fact that he considered to go to therapy with the crazy b*!ch. Blows my mind. She can see a therapist on her own to deal with these issues! Are you sure that, they are even going to a therapist and not at a hotel? Girl, crack your whip and man up, don't let him deceive you! You don't need that crap leave the past in the past and move on together on to new beginings, don't bring the baggage with you! Leave that crazy phsycopath to deal with her own issues! At the risk of sounding mean, who cares if she did away with herself at least she wouldn't bother you or your new husband!
This is complex. How did you knw about the other woman .. how long has it been going on etc. Has he told you abt her and ASKED for forgiveness/told u its over..
But the point is, If he has done that and you have forgiven him and have interest in saving ur marriage you need to set grounds.
Meaning no contact between them outside work. He broke your trust so basically its not even ';crazy'; if you get a Private investigator to spy on him while at work. (ok maybe a little extreme)
If it's over then it should be OVER. (minimal talking between them at work)
He should be spending his time going to COUNSELING WITH YOU so he can tryyyyyyyyyy to fix things with you. He may not want to ';hurt'; the other woman but is IGNORING how MUCH he hurt you.
He needs to realize who is more important and who he has wronged.
I suggest just leaving the house for a day or 2 dont answer his calls, dont tell him anything and maybe he will realize what he is missing.
But if he doesn't; you need to see that he has made his choice and he might come back later but I don't suggest waiting.
Good luck!
Wow, that's a new one! Were you invited? Clued in they were going to do this without you? If not it sounds as if they are working on their issues, which imo, shouldn't be the first step here. He's YOUR husband. He should be working with YOU.
Ask to go along and have a word with her - give her all the 'getting over him' she needs.
If this doesnt work, you just say you never really thought your ex got over you - and that your husbands good nature has given you some food for thought.
WTF? I think it's called lying - i.e. they are really getting a hotel room for the hour. I would not put up with this in any way shape or form. Not sure how it's beneficial to you. I would kick him to the curb for good.
That means he still cares about her enough to go to counseling. Which in my opinion he should be going to counseling with you to help both of you get past what happened. Sorry, I'd be irate, in fact I am irate for you.... Good luck...
ya ya ok that sounds just perfect! Um something sounds sorta suspicious to me about that one. Aparantly they are tryin to work things out or something!WOW u got to question him more on this one cause it just dont sound right to me.
That's bizarre. You should go along to counseling to help you get over the fact that your husband has been cheating.
Sounds like something other than counseling is going on. Hope you have a counselor of your own.
It means you need to wake up and smell the roses. Are you kidding? Get a divorce.
Trouble.
It should mean he is no longer going to be your husband.
What a load of cr**. He should be going to counseling with you. Don't believe this!
whaaat? it means that's a ridiculous excuse!!
Uhh he shouldnt be with another women wit h out u beeing there.
He's asking for trouble.
Your husband needs to find a new job. :-)
Sounds like in his mind you're the other woman
That is PURE BULLS*** !!!
loves them
RED FLAG!!!!
sounds fishy to me.
This is the silliest thing I've ever heard.
THAT is just too weird! are you kidding me. If it were my husband I'd put a stop to it NOW!
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