How to forgive or forget a husband that cheated on you for 3 years?

How do I forgive and forget my cheating husband for 3 years. Cuz I have 2 kids with him. Then if we get divorce, will that effect my kids? How do you think we should try to work it out? Do you know any marriage counselor that I can talk to? How to forgive or forget a husband that cheated on you for 3 years?
Retrouvallie is a free counseling weekend,It help open lines of communication between you and your spouse,it really helps,look them up for a session in your area.How to forgive or forget a husband that cheated on you for 3 years?
do not ever stay with any one because of the kids, and he has effected them by spending three years of their life with some floozy when he could have been spending all of that energy on them, I would not forget or forgive him and it would not matter because I would be gone getting child support and alimony from my divorce, you deserve better and three years honey the affair is not over, what ever you choose to do I wish you luck but my sister went through this same thing and she ended up depressed and sulking she stayed because of the kids who ended up hating their dad for their mom always being sad and arguing about some tramp, he did not stop but he got smarter with it, they did divorce and he is out in the open with the home wrecker.
Being a product (child) of a divorce myself, please don't stay in the relationship for the sake of the kids. It will do more harm then good. Kids know more than you realize and when they get older they're going to think that men are supposed to cheat on women. Women are supposed to accepted it. Now, if you want to stay because you still love your husband and want to make it work, make sure he's on the same page too. He got to want to go to counseling and be committed to doing it. Obvious, he doesn't believe in commitments. Thus, the 3 year affair. However, if he's sincere about, at least try and work it out. Its going to be a long process, but if its meant to be then its going to work.





Do an internet search for marriage counselors in your area and go from there.





Best of luck to you!!
If you want to make it work go to the library and read some books that will help. Talk to someone from your church...or a church near by. The pastor will talk to you even if you aren't a member in most churches. Find a counselor and see him alone and preferably with your husband. One book that might help is Not Just Friends. If he isn't willing to do every thing to make it work then walk away. Don't stay just for the kids if you can't rebuild the trust and love. good luck.
The first question that you need to ask yourself is ';do you love him?'; The next question is can you forgive him? I will not ask you if you can forget because you never will. Next question, Is he really sorry....I mean he is your husband and yes he cheated on you but you probably know him better than anyone else. Do you believe he loves you? If you can look in your heart and answer NO to any of these questions then you need to leave. Yes it will hurt your children but not as much as a false relationship between you and your husband.....kids can tell the difference. In my experience counselors are helpful only if both parties want them to be. If you and your hubby can't get along move on. That is really the best thing for the kids. Do it before your kids suffer from animosity that has built up between you and your husband have gone too far and you put them in the middle of an ugly battle. If you still love him and think you will be able to trust him again then fight for your marriage. But you both need to want that.
I dont know excatly how to say this or how to help you... I really cant cause I am going through the same thing you are.. My husband of almost a yr cheated on me with his ex girlfriend back in June. I was currently pregnant with out son at that time. I have two children with my husband our daughter and our son who was just born this past sunday. I am still trying to get over the hurt of him cheating I think of it from time to time but marriage counselor it depends where you are from and who the best counsler around you is. But if you need someone to talk to I would like to be there maybe we can help each other out
I too am dealing with this issue. I am finding that I can forgive him but I CANNOT forget no matter how hard I try. Everything seems to be a trigger, it so sucks!!! Divorce will negatively affect the kids but so does living in a tense environment--this I know from experience. He needs to be accountable until your trust is earned back. Please get counseling, it really does help. You both should go. Good Luck My Friend and lots of Peace Love and Joy to you.
You are noble, honest and have a good heart. You are trying to do what is best for your kids which is totally cool. However, if your husband cheated for 3 years, even for the strongest willed man in the world, it will be VERY hard for him to stop. I would look into getting a lawyer instead of working it out, but that is just me. However I have the greatest respect for you in the world for trying. good luck.
Well, Let's see you can forgive but you will probably never forget. That's a hard thing to do. You trusted him and he broke your trust. He should have to gain your trust back. Will it effect your kids? Of course it will. You didn't do anything wrong, he is the one that needs to do the work in getting his wife back and all around family!
listen.. lots of husbands cheat on thier wives and lot so wives cheat on thier husbands.. but nobody usually finds out.. case in point .. it took you 3 LONG YEARS.....





If you gave your husband hell over this and is over that other girl.. I would keep him on a short leash.. i konw it's gonna be hard to forgive him.. but he is not perfect. no one is..





If he's treating you and your family as good as always and you are happy with him.. u should stay..





if he's treating u like crap and the family too. then maybe you should think about finding someone else....





But don't jump on the DIVORCE HIM bandwagon, like I'm sure most women will tell you to do.
I am so sorry.You know when the Bible says, love covers a multitude of sins, it means that your love will forgive numberless offences. You can get past this, but it will take time. Your spouse has to come clean with you as to what he really wants. He has to give you time to 'bear' this pain in your own way. Many marriages that last for 40, 50 years have forgiven a whole lot of this. If you have any SDA church near you, try the pastor's office. A marriage needs Jesus, not a divorce.
u don't easily forget or forgive a cheating spouse, because u never know when he will do it again.if your going to work it out,therapy will be needed, try asking a church for help.3 years is a long time to cheat,it could effect the kids worse staying in an unhappy home.just really depends on his level of remorse.
No, it will ALWAYS be in the back of your mind, even if its not right in front of your face. My ex cheated on me and it was always there, no matter what, if he came home 5 min late I would wonder! It drove me nuts and it will you too! The only thing that went away was my feelings for him and wanting a real man that would treat me right. All divorces affect kids, but you also dont want them to grow up seeing mom miserable and dad having girlfriends! Good Luck hun!
3 years. There really is no going back. This meant he felt no guilt. If he had, he would have quit long ago.


Leave.


Your kids will be fine. And if he stills wants or u still want him to be in their lives, by all means, dont hate him, but dont degrade yourself by staying with him.


Best of luck!
I don't know how to tell you to forgive him but even if you can will you ever forget about it . My opinion has always been once a cheater always a cheater , he may not do it again for ten years but he will do it again
If you divorce it's going to affect the children big time. tears etc.


ashamed that the husband would cheat when he has a lovely family.





maybe ask what family and responsibly means - only the Truth





honestly the best policy
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I'm sorry your going through this all. Stay Strong.
if he was cheating for 3 years how do u know in fact he stopped?Why would u want to be with him if he cheated 3 years?We are not talking a few months we are talking about 3 years!How do u know she is not pregnant?
There is no method with which you can wash away memories. Only time shall give you some relief.
Oh yes it will really effect your kid's it's a lot harder when you get divorced, try to avoid it.





I would try marriage counseling Good luck
i would walk away. because the very fact that u are asking how to forgive shows that you cant forgive. and you shouldnt.
wow, you have stayed that long, if you stay get a short leash