What would you do if your husband considered calling an attractive coworker?

When you were out of town?





What would you think if he come clean and said he considered calling this woman (during tough times in your marriage) because he was bored one night, thought he'd see he over for company when you were gone.





Then, he decided how messed up that would be and that there was no innocent reason to do that and decided not to put himself or his marriage in that position.





Would you be happy or hurt? Would you consider it the ';right'; choice, or messed up he even had the thought?





How would YOU forget and keep your love and marriage peaceful?What would you do if your husband considered calling an attractive coworker?
i would not forget, but i would take it as a warning that maybe my marriage needed work and more communication. i myself would be happy is this had happened with my ex before he went through with seeking out another, but it didn't work out that way for us. when there are rough patches in a marriage this sometimes happens and i would be happy he decided not to because that shows he still loves and values u. this means maybe he has some morals and character. its much better to know then not to know theres a potential problem.What would you do if your husband considered calling an attractive coworker?
Personally, if it were my wife and she considered it at a rough time during our marriage, I may prefer ignorance for myself, but if she came clean I can't bee overly upset. Nothing happened, she thought about it but chose not to act because our relationship was more important.





It may sting that she considered cheating, but I would have to be somewhat happy she didn't go through with it.





I know I just spun your question to my wife, but I don't have a lot of experience with husbands. :D
If it where me in your shoes, I would honestly have to fight anger and take a step back to realize that he did nothing wrong and try to be relived. He had the opportunity and chose not to take it because he loved you even though you were going thru tough times. Maybe you should use this as a jumping off point to talk to your husband. It may have hurt hearing the words that he thought about it, but you should be happy that he chose his marriage and he had the courage to be honest with you.
Okay, you are saying he considered it. Meaning he thought about it. Meaning it never happened.





I would not be upset at all. Especially if it was during a rough time in our marriage. He thought about it, and it didn't happen. He showed restraint, self control, and respect for a marriage that by your admission was on the rocks.
First of all communication is key. Most issues begin w/lack of communicating about what's most important. We're all human, and when times are rough in a relationship, we all tend to wonder if we can find comfort somewhere else, men more so than women at times, but the bottom line is he was honest with you, and he made the best choice for your marriage.





As women, we have to pick our battles, and decide what is more important: holding this weak point over his head, or acknowledging that he had a lapse in judgment for a moment, but came to his senses before any lasting damage was done, and just let it go and move on.
So he called her then said wait don't come over?





Yeah, definitely something between him and her, but obviously he felt guilty even asking her over then spilled his guts to you. Not sure why he told you that, but sounds to me like he hasn't cheated. Anyways I'd just forget about it if I were you, but watch the coworker closely.
He did the right thing, in my opinion. He stopped himself and he told you. I'd be more concerned if he hid it from you. Men and women will always have times they are tempted, married or not. If a man says he's never looked at another woman ever while married and had a fleeting thought of lust, he's probably a liar [minus newly-weds]. My husband and I never lie about those things. It actually builds more trust, rather than taking it away. To admit your faults and shortcomings to another means you are accountable to that person. When people start hiding things, trouble is not far away.
if he was gonna call the office hottie, he would have done it behind your back. he 'came clean', because he wanted your attention and see your reaction. he had zero intentions to do it, mostly cuz he has no b@lls, which worked out better for you.
God says that we should forgive anyone 7 times 7, forgiveness is the key to any healthy relationship,, not just marriage. But you will never forget that incident no matter how hard you try! Everytime you even go somewhere that same scene is going to play in your mind. So don't let it!
I would agree that this isn't something he shouldn't have mentioned to you and he was probably trying to get a reaction out of you. With that in mind, if women think that guys don't look at other women, don't consider ';possibilities'; (other scenarios) etc...then you are clueless. Guys want to f--k, end of story. Marriage is hard for a guy because we would honestly like to have sex with other women but we understand it would hurt our wives (ie a betrayal). So basically our selfish biological urges are kept at bay by our logical minds, empathy %26amp; societal guilt (or they typically are).
This is a perfect example of what I call too much honesty. He did NOT need to tell you this. We do NOT need to know every single thought that goes through our partner's mind.





He didn't cheat, he knew it would be wrong, he values his marriage. I'd be very happy about that. Then I'd tell him what a dork he was for even bringing it up.
i woulda been angry and disappointed.. some things are better left not knowing.. if he didnt do it then i dont wanna hear it.. it'd just eat at me to look at his disgusting ***, i dont sit here thinking who the heck i can call up when i sit my butt home alone or going thru some hard times..


men!! all they ever think about is who can be their company when the wife's gone.. go clean the freakin toilet for sake!!
Everyone considers things that are probably not right and the execution of those considerations is what makes a person's character. He thought about it and did not do it. I don't see the issue here.
There is NO reason why your husband would have brought this up, except to use it as a passive aggressive means to hurt you.





I couldn't be happy until I knew whatever caused the manipulation was solved.
It puzzles me that he felt the need to tell you this. Whether he did or not it's not something you just blurt out. Sounds like he's trying to get a reaction from you.
This is your choice and you can do what you want. I would go see the homewrecker and put his clothes on her doorstep. Tell her that she can have your leftovers because it smells bad!
I would think if he didn't do it why is he telling me and probably is guilty of do something and confessed to this stupid bullshit to ease his mind that's what i would think
Does he normally tell you that he is considering going to the bathroom or eating?


Sounds like bogus information to inflate his ego.
I would be very upset he even considered it but I would be very happy he at least didn't go through with it. Just try to move on. He didn't do anything.
I would be very happy that my husband could be so honest and real.
Plain and simple: Men should not be chasing any woman other than their own wife!!!
Your husband is honest, you are lucky.
leave him alone he thought it he will act on it
He's just warming u up to the idea in the future... so when you catch him with her, you won't be completely surprised : )
I think that is really wrong of him to even consider talking to another woman. it only takes thinking about it to really do it. even if he didn't do anything, he thought about it and it makes you think if he will think that way every time you have tough times. instead of him thinking that he should have been thinking what more can he do on his part to fix the marriage. if there were tough times in the marriage he could call up some guy friends and talk about it with them, but another woman!!!! that always leads to cheating. i would be very upset and it would take me forever to forgive him if i ever would. it would make me very insecure about our marriage and i would hate to live that way. although he thought it over and realized it would be a big mistake, he was still wrong. maybe he should turn things around and think of how he would feel if you had thought that way!