What do I do about my husband and my what is suppose to be a happy family?

What do you do when you have been in a marriage for 13 years and everything in the bed room is dead as well as some amostion . Then you over see email dating service saying your husband is divorce with three children and in fact we have been married all this time with four children . I don't want to leave him but , I don't know what to do to make it better....What do I do about my husband and my what is suppose to be a happy family?
Honey, I am so sorry that you are going through this I know it is very hurtful. First step, confrontation. You need to sit him down when the kids are not home, when neither of you are tired or argumentative and when there is no distractions. You need to just come straight out and ask him about the dating service and listen to what he says. Tell him how you feel about it and ask him why he did it. Once he answers that, then ask him if he wants to be with you and if he does if he is willing to work 100% towards rekindling your relationship. If he isint, then honey don't torture yourself, put an action plan together as to what you two are going to do, it will hurt and you will feel sad, mad, depressed etc all at once for awhile. However, if he is then you need to possibly consider some marriage counseling along with researching and finding ways to spice things up (there are counselers for this too however, i do not know the title for them). It is going to take time for you guys to get your relationship back on track if you so choose, it did not take two weeks for your relationship to deteriorate and it wont take that long to put it back together. Also, stick it out just because it automatically doesnt start working don't give up. You need to figure out what you want and what he wants and go from there. Hope that helped. Good Luck.What do I do about my husband and my what is suppose to be a happy family?
you need to confront him ask him WHY he feels the need to say hes divroced and you need ot get mad at him for even having a email dating service in the FIRST PLACE girl. your his wife dont just stand in the background and watch your marriage crumble. TALK TO HIm be honest, tell him how ur feeling and how you feel that the bed room is dead etc. and hopefuly he will want to change as well.
If I was married for 13 yrs. and my husband was on dating sites saying he was divorced I would make an appointment with a therapist for myself and find out why I didn't want to leave his a$$.
Well don't let that fool play single while married..he is playing divorced well divorce him an he no longer will have to play and pretend. Sorry I know this sucks!