What do you do when your husband expects you to prepare dinner every night?

Does it annoy you? Do you just feel like telling him to make something on his own? What do you do when your husband expects you to prepare dinner every night?
I couldn't stay married to a man that EXPECTED me to prepare dinner every night, and I even love to cook. NO ONE wants to make dinner every single night. Can you afford to go out? I that's tough for most of us these days but try to do it once in awhile. Sometimes it's nice to even just go to a fast food place and kick back. And there's certainly nothing wrong with left overs if it's a great dish. My husband loves my lasagna, so we have it 2 nights in a row. Same w/ a pot of chili. And YES, if my husband expected me to make dinner every night, I'd wouldn't just feel like telling him to make something on his own, I'd tell him to! Even after all of these years, he still really loves it when I cook though so I don't mind most of the time. He always says it ';hit the spot';, ';was even better than last time'; etc. so because he appreciates it, I am a little more motivated. I think because your husband expects you to prepare it every night you are right to be annoyed. What do you do when your husband expects you to prepare dinner every night?
I think that if you do not work then he can expect you to take most, but not all the cooking responsibility. However, if you work then he really needs to assist in the kitchen.


I find that cooking together in the evening is an opportunity to relax with one another and have some quality time communicating about events during the day and on general issues.


The plus side of being a husband that cooks is that you learn and are able to provide for yourself when your spouse is away.


Encourage your husband to get involved,even if it is only over weekends, and occasionally buy a meal instead of preparing it.
in my experience, alot of guys have grown up around moms that always did the cooking for the family and usually every night. this might be something your husband is just accustomed to due to his growing up.





I have 3 daughters and a bf of 3.5 years. I cook dinner every night b/c I feel it's important for my family to eat healthy and it also gives us all good bonding time. my girls LOVE to help me in the kitchen and my bf usually helps out too!! he'll either help cook or he sets the table and cleans up for us.





have you tried suggesting to your husband that he meet you halfway? maybe 1-2 nights a week (for starters) you guys could make dinner together. my bf and I have learned this is a great way for us to bond too when the girls are with their dad (we have joint custody). we have alot of fun cooking together plus we get to catch up talking about work,etc.





make the meals during the week simple and fun. if he doesn't want to help cook, then suggest that he set up and clean up after the meal to help you out. explain to him that you shouldn't be doing all the work.





if he works all week and you don't (not saying this is the case-some women are lucky enough to stay home) then this might be something you should take w/a grain of salt. it's nice to come home to a home cooked meal after a long day of work-i'm sure your husband appreciates it.





so sit down and have a nice, casual talk w/him and see if you guys can come up with a solution to get him to help you out a bit and make it fun for you both!!





good luck!!
I actually cook 5 days a week and have a full time job, so no it doesnt annoy me. I actually enjoy cooking and enjoy cooking for my mate. He does all the things I expect from him, so cooking for him is not a chore, nor does he make it seem like one or make me feel like it is. If for some reason I do not cook, he is quite happy with going to Mc Donalds or going out to eat. I am sorry that you have issues in this area.
Well, when I started dating my guy I found out quickly that he doesn't like to cook and to make it worse -- neither do I. Every night was such a struggle because neither of us knew what to think of for dinner and often we would get into stupid tiffs over what to eat. Not worth it!





I realized that one of us had to take the initiative so I decided it was me and that if I wanted to cook one night and he was hungry then he was going to eat it regardless! Turned out he likes my ';cooking'; and now I get him involved by getting him to be my assistant. We spend time together in the kitchen and it doesn't feel so one-sided for me. After we finish eating he tells me how good it was and it makes me feel appreciated for my efforts (even if they weren't amazing) and it lets me give him some credit for helping me.





But on nights when neither of us are motivated instead of making it a big deal I'll just suggest one of the places we like to order out from and that solves things for us easily.
If i learned nothing else in Alcoholics Anonymous, it was ';As an adult individual we are never rqeuired to do for other adults what they can do for themselves';





I think that it's ok to take on the primary role of ';cook';; however, i realize there are some days when we don't want to do it. Same goes for laundry.





If your husband is hungry, and you are not interested in cooking, i think he can manage.



Teach him the fun in cooking. Get him to make some meals with you on the weekend and show him the pride that you can get from cooking a good meal. Usually I get home at about 11 at night due to long work hours so my girlfriend cooks everyday during the week but I still like to cook her a nice meal when I have time.
You know, my marriage was like that. He expected me to hold a full time job, cook, clean, ect. ect. It was BS. He said that was the price of equailty. So after that bad spell I started dating my current bo, before he even thought about moving in with me, that's what I went over. Its not like its a crazy demand, which asking me to do everything ontop of a job Is, If you both work, you should Both carry the responsibilites around the house. (imo :D)





If it bothers you talk to him about maybe sharing the load of home chores. Can never go wrong exploring options.
Maybe he chooses to do something only for you that he wouldn't expect you to do. Maybe one day you can ask to help in the prep work. He probably brags to his buddies about your cooking. I could take that as a compliment...Good Luck. Maybe you guys can make a dinner date one night a week to give you a break.
Been there, done that, hated it too.





Why not get a job and make sure you don't get off work, until an hour after he gets off work? Then tell him, since he gets home an hour before you do, then he should have dinner ready every night when you get home. Lol
He may expect it as that is what he is used to having you do. I think you may be saying that having his help would be appreciated.
Never thought about it. I cook every night and I guess it's expected but I don't mind. If you mind, then have him grill a few times a night so that you're taking turns.
What is wrong in he expecting u to do it.... i will happy to do it for my husband... nevermind he expects it or not..
If you both work he can pitch in and cook also. What he expects does not have to be what he gets.
well does he work, do u work, if not then some one needs to prepare something to eat, dont u think
If I do not want to cook, I will just have food delivered.






Not at all. I just serve him crackers and ice cream.
go buy him some Macas or some KFC and say here mate here is your dinner. lol
do you work???? if not ,think it annoys him???


geez one little meal for your man is so hard.you'll make a great wife.