What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?

When your marriage turns from marriage to just friendship?





Men, don't you go home and just want to passionately kiss your wife?What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?
I am all over my wife when I get home BUT she pushes me away! Kicks me out the door in the morning when I am trying to kiss her too!








I can't get enough of her I just wish she felt the same way! ! !








Claims that since she has kids pawing all over her all day that she just doesn't need me doing it too????? Heck I will take all the pawing from the kids and still want my wife too! ! ! What do you do when your husband stops kissing you?
A little more background would be helpful. How long married, how old, any kids, etc.





Generally speaking, I have found that couples differ a little to a lot on matters of passion and sexuality. It can be something as simple as the way you kiss. I've known girls who like a firm lipped kiss versus a soft lipped kiss. Where am I going with this?





As you get on in your marriage you get busier and busier, and it becomes easier to forget about dating, love-making, and passion. It really takes a concerted effort to keep it going. While many men love women of all shapes and sizes and will passionately pursue physical contact morning, noon, and night. Many are not so driven.





You may need to light the fire with a date or two. Spice it up with something out of the ordinary sexually. IMHO, the kiss is the most personal, and intimate manifestation of mutual desire. Stoke his fires back up.
I completely disagree with the post above me that when you're married awhile you lose passion and romance. Trust me, that's not true in every case. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and it should be the single most important relationship in your life -- but it does take work to keep it going strong and keep all the gears turning correctly.





See the thing is, I see you saying ';my husband stopped kissing me'; but I don't say anything about you kissing your husband. Are the two of you stuck in one of those ';You do it first'; ruts, or is he flat out refusing to kiss you even if you try to kiss him first?





If he pushes you away when you try: you need to talk to him, ASAP. Sit your husband down and explain to him that you love him very much, and it hurts your feelings when he thwarts your advances for affection or intimacy. Ask him if his feelings for you have changed, and what you can do to help your relationship progress to being close once again. Tell him it hurts you that the two of you have drifted apart, and you'd like to know his standpoint on the whole thing.





If you don't try kissing him either: then you have no right to complain about him not kissing you, missy! It takes two to tango, and someone ALWAYS has to be the initiator, right? This may seem crazy to you but trust me, try it. BE THERE FOR YOUR MAN! be affectionate, be in love, and do things for him. I don't care if he doesn't reciprocate or even seem to enjoy what you're doing for him, do it anyway. I guarantee you that within 2 weeks of you doing all this for him, he WILL start to be more affectionate and loving toward you! When he comes home from work, get up and meet him at the door. Wrap your arms around him, and kiss him passionately. Ask to get him a drink, and go sit with him and ask how his day was. Hold his hand, or run your fingers through the back of his hair. Give him a back rub, and kiss him often. Just trust me on this -- he WILL start to feel closer to you and more willing to initiate affection when he has a wife like this!





It really works, my husband and I hit a rut like this until I read I book that suggested doing what I just listed. I was blaming my hubby for it all but decided to try it anyway. It literally took him like 3 days, and then our relationship was back to normal! :) That was over a year ago, and we still kiss passionately every day, and have sex multiple times a week. We have a very loving, affectionate, intimate relationship and I wouldn't have it any other way.





Good luck!
First it is almost impossible for a relationship to exist in that state of full passion all the time. How could you get anything done? But it should never die. Relationships do develop into friendships which is great but again love the fire.





However It seems more common-I know I will offend-that women let passion wane and then get upset when men do not come home and kiss them.





My wife says this as well. Why didn't you kiss me? Well, why don't you meet me at the door sometimes? Iam busy.





So the expectation is that I should come in, search for you, then kiss you passionately, then to be told you have to finish folding the laundry.





This needs to be an equal thing. Meet him at the door or -with kids-call him in the other room. Kiss him and slide a hand into his pants. Give a thrill with maybe a promise for later. See if things change then.
I always wanted my wife until the she cheated on me. I think back on the years she rejected me and tried to make me feel worthless while I remained faithful and kept trying to make the marriage work.





My suggestion is marriage counseling. If you don't have kids and the counseling doesn't work out then get divorced and start over.





Everyone deserves to be love.
thats the kind of relationship i had with my boyfriend. It wasnt very romantic or passionate. It was never like this from the start. We were more like good friends. The companionship was wonderful and at the time, i took that over anything b/c we had so much in common. Sex just dies after a while or gets boring anyway i figured. I think once you are with th same person for a long time, it gets that way for alot of people. The passion just dies out or gets to be routine like. What do you do? You can try kissing him pasionately first and see what happens. You can try spicing your sex life a bit. You can plan a day where you pamper him? I guess those are the things i would do if that really meant alot to me. Whats bad is when he doesnt kiss you at all but then again, some men are just not affectionate like that. Every man is diff't and expresses their love in diff't ways. My guy (no longer together due to child support issues) showed love through doing things for me around the house and buying things for me like groceries, or just small things i needed that were practical. Thats how he expressed his love for me. There is a book out there that i saw that teaches people diff' ways that love is expressed by couples and sometimes it gets confusing when a couple expreses their affection in different ways. After i had my child, my boyfreind stopped kissing me at bedtime. We used to just give each other a peck on the lips and say ';goodnight';. It wasnt passionate. Then after things got hairy between us due to communication problems about money with regards to new baby, he didnt even do that. I started to worry and asked him and his response was, ';im just tired';. Turns out that he stopped loving me and felt miserable in our relationship. I would talk to your hubby and tell him that you are worried.
Women see kissing as an act of emotionally intimacy. Men see it as an act of sexual intimacy. If a man kisses his wife and it doesn't lead to sex later on that day he will quit kissing her so he doesn't work himself up for no reason.





Sorry to say it but this is the truth.





Just tell him that you need to be kissed to feel loved.
We go up and down on the kissing, it's normal. You have to figure you are good friends but you also have to take some time for romance.


Why wait for your husband to kiss you? Go up and give him a kiss when he gets home, kiss him at random times and make sure you stop and kiss him good night. Take some action :) It is also up to you!
I wish my wife wanted me to kiss her she has made up all


all kinds of excuses not to.


And if she does let me kiss her it definitely is not passionate.


That is one thing I told her that was destroying our marriage.





I guess we need to ask is friendship enough?


Been asking too long now. so all I can say is feel your pain.



Hi Joy





As marriage goes on sometimes some men/women forget that they've still to make a bit of an effort. So when he comes home from work why don't you just plant the lips on him and remind him what hes missing lol He'll soon be rushing in the door at night!





Luv Mags xx
don't kiss him have on some faint but quality cologne, and just happen to stand near him, like to get the remote or something, then walk over and do the dishes, etc and see if he doesn't come after you and kiss you on the neck.-give it time
OH NO! That is not good... let me tell you I always tell my boyfriend to never stop kissing me like if we just met . Bc when you let that passion and desire go away, everything else starts to go away with it. Yes .. sex and kissing and passion isn't everything .. but it counts for a whole lot!





Good Luck
I think thats what just happens when your married and have been together for a while... you loose passion and romance.





Thats why I dont have sex with my fiancee, Im waiting until were married so we can save some romance and passion for the marriage.
my wife stopped kissing me 8 mths back we leave like roomates, hope this changes always wants me to initiate and now she even refuses so it's just not husband who stops it's wives who behave arrogant too and nothing works it's just their stupidity why do they get married
Send the kids to a baby sitter. Dress as best as you can. Have a nice romantic dinner waiting for him. If he doesn't respond then you've got more problems than him just not wanting to kiss you anymore.
Find out why. Ask him, if he won't tell do some investigating. If that doesn't work, then try some counseling if only for yourself.





Maybe just lay one on him.





Yes I do want to kiss her and I do.
Do something in the manner of lipstick or lipgloss to draw attention to your mouth and remind him just how kissable and desireable you are.
Kissing is kissing who cares if we lack a little as long as everything else is good!
You need to work something out, because it's good to be friends but you need passion as well.
At that point I don't even think you're really married anymore, he has become more of a roommate I'd say.
I can't imagine ever reaching a point where I didn't want to kiss my wife.
Kiss someone else. Simple.
Kiss him first.