How often do you and your husband have disagreements? It is more frequent with young children?

We have a good argument about once a month. Is this normal or too often? How often do you guys argue? And, is it usually about stupid stuff? I know I put this in parenting, but you guys are all in the same situation as me, with young kids at home, so I thought you are best to ask if we are ';normal';! Thanks everyone!How often do you and your husband have disagreements? It is more frequent with young children?
I've been with my husband for 17 years, we were both 15. We've never had a huge argument. We have little tiffs once in awhile, usually about him sleeping in. When the kids were younger we argued more, because we were still trying to get our parenting styles to merge.





But yeah, with teens it's a lot less often. We can see now where the other is coming from and we got out the kinks and compromises a long time ago.





I want to add that when we disagree, we've always been respectful. No name voice raising or name calling. Ever. I've always had in my head that he would never put up with that, nor should he, because I know I wouldn't. So we've never crossed that line.How often do you and your husband have disagreements? It is more frequent with young children?
My husband and I usually have a big argument once a month. and its usually is over stupid stuff that just blew out of control. We also have a child at home (HIS child) he's 8. and at times it is because of the kid. But I think you're normal. unless we're both in a relationship where there is too much arguing. I've also learned to choose my battles. and it has reduced the arguing. If its something that I can let go, I just do, but later bring it up so we can talk about it, rather than have a shouting match. In my opinion once a month sounds right, unless you're in the Beaver family and you're perfect.
it doesn't matter how often you argue; it matters how you argue. if you keep it civil, mature, and end with a respectful resolution, i wouldn't worry about it. if not, i'd try and fix it.





we argue only rarely. he just doesn't have the temperament for arguing at all: as best i can tell after knowing him for two decades he has no temper to lose. and i just can't bring myself to argue with someone who is so calm. but there are a few issues where we are certain to end up disagreeing and sometimes disagreeing to the point i'd call it an argument. we both ended up laughing a few nights ago when he was just starting to raise the issue of a possible addition on our house (he wants it; i think we can't afford it and it's totally unnecessary, and we've had this unproductive conversation a hundred times) and i stopped him and said we were having such a nice evening that i thought we should save the subjects that are guaranteed to provoke problems between us for sometime when we were already grumpy....
We don't argue (or discuss I should say) enough. My husband is one of few words and bottles everything up until he explodes, then the gloves usually come off (not literally). We have been together so long that is seems it is always over the same stupid things. I told him I am done fighting over these issues we need to just get signs like Looney Tunes and hold them up at one another LOL. And yes some of our worst arguments have been over the stupidest things like him changing a light bulb or our daughter not eating her green beans at age 3. Again this is where suppressing the emotions makes green beans a bigger issue than they are. So I would say yes you are normal. My daughter is now 8 and we all laugh about the green bean issue but she still will NOT eat them LOL They are the two most stubborn people I have ever met.
Me and my fiance NEVER argued before out son came along.





Now we argue at least once a week, maybe even twice, but there always over silly things. I think a combination of tiredness and stress is to blame cos we always come around really quickly and end up forgetting about what the arguement was even over anyways!





In answer to your Q though, yeah, you sound pretty normal to me!
My husband and I argue about every 2 weeks so, sometimes over the dumbest things or how to discipline our kids. I think it is normal to argue every so often, but not every day. So I think your relationship is good.