How do I get my husband and my 12yr old son to get along again?

I have a 12yr old who has an absent father and my husband who has been in his life since he was 2. They have always had a good relationship, but these last couple of months they have been fighting(not physical) constantly. I don't know if it's because my son is becoming a teenager or because he hasn't had his real dad around for so many years. I would love for them to come to some common ground, but I don't know how to help. Any advice?How do I get my husband and my 12yr old son to get along again?
Happening at my house too. It is pretty natural, however If you feel it is a huge issue, sit down and talk with both of them and show them how you feel about their superfluous fighting. Tell them that it stresses you out. Perhaps suggest an activity they could do. Stand up for yourself and tell them how you feel. Problem-solving skills.How do I get my husband and my 12yr old son to get along again?
If this man has been in his life since he was 2 he is his REAL father! The fighting is because he is 12 and is becoming a teenager. Get used to it because this will continue for some years. You can try grounding and taking away his things, that usually works for kids that age since all they want to do is hang with their friends and/or play video games. Good luck and congrats on having a NORMAL 12 year old!
Have them go out and do something together there is batting cages, bowling. depending what your son is in to have your husband take him out and do it. that is what i did for my 11 yr old
Your son is entering a period of transition - adolescence - and unless the transition is discussed with the child, it can be confusing and overwhelming. Adolescence is that time in life of experimentation so that in the early adult years, the child will be able to form a sense of self-identity. There is that important awareness that comes to light at this age where the child identifies with the parent of the same sex so he might now be feeling a need to know his biological father for the sake of his own personal identity. Also, boys are less apt to have an open discussion about any issue they have so to get any information from him, it has to be done over an activity the child and you can do together. See what happens if your husband didn't exercise as much authority over your son because the boy might be questioning why a person who is not his biological father is exercising control over his actions (even if that isn't what your husband is really doing to him). Try giving him a little bit of space while maintaining family structure. Discuss with him what you went through during the same age he is now. Discuss what your husband went through of adolescence. Do it gently and slowly so he doesn't feel like he is being ganged up on by his parents. I would also ask him if he has ever thought about his biological father and what he was like.


You are in a tough position and worrying about it too much will make the situation more intense.
Maybe the 2 of them need some bonding, like a weekend get-away or going to a movie or dinner together. Everyday life can get busy and crazy and we forget to have fun. Kids like to see us parents laughing with them and having fun. That can bring a bond closer. Goodluck!!!
From what it seems, perhaps now that your son is getting to be a teen combined with maybe your husband telling him what to do, he just probably doesn't want to listen to him because it isn't his biological father. I dont think you have anything to worry about, but if you really really really want this to stop then your best bet is to go to your son when he is alone and calm, possible when he is happy and ask him calmly about the arguing. But when you do this, dont make it seem like he is doing something wrong (because then he will be less willing to talk to you about this).
Well you need to give your husband discplining right, if your son is being rude or disrepectful let your husband deal with it...maybe a good spanking will get your sons attention and make him understand that he can't talk to a parent ( person over him) like that!
that actually sounds normal my father has been in my life and my younger sister and younger brothers life all of our lives and when i was his age i began to fight with my father all the time and now my brother is 13 and he is going through the same thing they just feel like they don't want to be treated like a baby any more because they are becoming teenagers and they want their freedom. but i would still talk to him privately and make sure everything is okay with him. and let him know that even though his biological dad isn't around that his stepdad loves him like he's his own child