How do I tell my husband I want to have a baby with our other partner?

My husband and I have two children, 10 and 8, and for the last six years we have shared our home and relationship with another man we were both best friends with but now have a polyamorous marriage with. They are best friends, and I have in love with both. I've been wanting to have a baby with our third for a while now, but not sure how to tell the hubby?How do I tell my husband I want to have a baby with our other partner?
well it seems dat ur husband is pretty open minded ...coz he is into the whole idea of dis situation of urs...


Well i think u shud tell him straight ...thou I don't think ne guy wud welcom dis idea ....


WEll u shud ask him if u desperately want a child wid the oder guy but den be prepared for some firworks nd It can really affect ur marriage badly ....


or


If u stilll want it badly den don't tel husband in dat case but dat wud be wrong.... ( nd I won't personally reccomend ) but dis is one of d options if u think ur husband can agree to it nd u desperatly want a baby wid dis odr guy...How do I tell my husband I want to have a baby with our other partner?
Whoa!!!


ya almost got me there, I was gonna suggest filling for divorce. Shows what a presumptive jerk I am LOL


If he is this open and you are in a polyamorous relationship that seems to be working I cannot imagine that this would be a problem. If he is not cool with you concieving with the third then why would he have him share the relationship and his spouse to begin with.


With way out there folks on the edge of social evolution like yourselves I cannot imagine it being a problem.


Just tell him straight up, perhaps he would like having a little one as well.


Congratulations, you 3 are far more evolved than me :)


Check into state laws where you are regarding paternity, these vary and I can see potential conflict. Go into this informed.
If he's okay with the relationship overall, then I can't see why you having a child would be taboo. Do you know that the other guy would be interested in having a child with you? That's a huge effect on his life as well...





Treat it like the adults you are, and talk to your husband about it. If he's kewl with it, then discuss it with the guy you want to have the kid with. DO NOT sneak anything by on either of them (as someone else suggested).
Wow, you should talk to him. I so see this on the next season of Snapped. I would really reconsider what you are thinking. You should think about your other children and what you are going to tell them. This is another life you are thinking about bringing into the world and one of these days someone is going to get sick of the situation and you or someone else will have to make a decision. To each their own but this is not healthy for your children.
I don't believe in 3-way relationships. It just makes relationships awkward and like you say, makes people fall in love with the other person.


I think the best you can do is call it off with your husband or the other man. Then just keep trying with just one man.


If you love them both, it will be hard :(
Obviously, the mental health and welfare of your children is not a concern. By all means.......drive on! Tell ya what would fun though, have them both do you on the same night and when you have the child, everyone cam sit around and guess who the father is!!! You could even start an office pool........man, that sounds like a lot of fun, doesn't it?
Well if he is willing to share the most sacred part of the marriage with someone else, then he should be able to understand. by the way why would you want to be with two men that are bisexual, or just plain gay and use you as a cover up to the world. Great way for your kids to see marriage.
Well, if you're in such a marriage, you should have no issue asking/telling your husband what you want. If you're not sure, or are scared of saying anything, then your trust/relationship level wasn't high enough to involve another person.





Just my opinion.





I'd say, tell him.
Why bring another kid into the world to suffer for your sick way of lifestyle Have the life you have but not have a kid Cant get enough of sex is what wrong with you .
You feel comfortable with that? That would never fly with me and my boyfriend. I would never be able to hook up with another man, let alone have a kid with another man without. That would make me feel like a pos.
you are seriously sick to be in one of those relationships marrige is beween a man and a woman not a man man and woman but just my opion nothing aginst you
No need to ask/tell the hubby. Pregnancy is an obvious risk of your relationship.
I would have thought there would be no more secrets in this relationship.Tell him.
Most people go on the Jerry Springer show for that stuff.
Hmm... Which husband are you talking about?
Wow, your kids are gonna be so effed up. Those poor children... how confusing that must be for them.
Say to him that you want # 2 to plant the seed.


I don't get it but that does not matter.
OMG!!! just tell him i guess. but 6 years is a long time.